終生受用！20個讓你更快樂的習(xí)慣1.Begrateful.要學(xué)會感恩。Slowdown,lookaroundyou,andpayattentiontothelittledetailsinyourlife–thedelicatepurplefloweronthesidewalk,thebeautifulsunset,thehotshowerthatwashesawayyourlongday,andthesmileinyourpartner’seyes…讓自己變慢腳步，看看你的四周，關(guān)注生活中的細(xì)微之處：人行道上淡紫色的花，美麗的日落，洗去你一天疲憊的淋浴，伴侶眼中的笑容。Whenyouhaveagratefulheartthatisappreciativeoflife’sbeautify,wonderandblessings,you’reautomaticallyfilledwithhappiness.

當(dāng)你的感恩之心能夠欣賞生活的美，思考和祝福，你自然就充滿了幸福感。2.Chooseyourfriendswisely.明智地選擇自己的朋友。AccordingtoHarvard,themostimportantexternalfactorsaffectingindividualhappinessarehumanrelationships.Soifyouwanttobehappy,choosetobearoundpeoplewhoareoptimistic,whoappreciateyouasyouare,andwhocanmakeyourlifericher,bigger,morefun,andmoremeaningful.根據(jù)哈佛研究表明，影響個人幸福最重要的外部因素是人際關(guān)系。所以如果你想變得開心的話，要選擇和樂觀的朋友在一起，他們能欣賞你真實(shí)的自己，讓你的生活變得更豐富、快樂、有意義。3.Cultivatecompassion.培養(yǎng)同情心。Whenwetrytostepintootherpeople’sshoesandunderstandasituationfromanother’sperspective,we’remorelikelytohandlethesituationwithcompassion,objectivityandeffectiveness.Therewillbelessconflictsandmorehappiness.

當(dāng)我們代替別人，站在另一個角度看問題，我們更能用同情心，客觀和有效地處理問題，生活中就會少一些沖突，多一點(diǎn)快樂。4.Keeplearning.不斷學(xué)習(xí)。Learningkeepsusyounganddreamskeepusalive.Whenweengageourbrainsandputthemtowardproductiveuses,we’relesslikelytodwellonunhappythoughtsandmuchmorelikelytofeelhappyandfulfilled.

學(xué)習(xí)讓我們保持年輕，夢想讓我們充滿活力。我們運(yùn)用大腦進(jìn)行運(yùn)作的時候，我們就不大會想不開心的事情，我們會變得更快樂和滿足。5.Becomeaproblemsolver.學(xué)會解決問題。Happypeopleareproblemsolvers.Whentheyencounterachallengeinlife,theydon’tbeatthemselvesupandfallintoadepressivestate.Instead,theyfaceuptothechallengeandchanneltheirenergiestowardfindingcreativeasolution.Bybecomingaproblemsolver,you’llbuildupyourself-confidenceandyourabilitytoaccomplishwhateveritisyousetyourmindto–andwhateverchallengeslifethrowsyourway.開心的人是會解決問題的人。在生活中遇到挑戰(zhàn)的時候，他們不會自虐，然后變得很消沉。他們會直面挑戰(zhàn)，調(diào)動全身力量尋找解決辦法。通過變成一個解決問題的人，你會建立自己的自信心，培養(yǎng)決心完成工作和直面挑戰(zhàn)的能力。6.Dowhatyoulove.做你想做的事情。Sincewespendoverone-thirdofouradultlifeworking,lovingwhatwedohasahugeimpactonouroverallhappiness.Ifthisisnotpossibleatthemoment,thentrytofindenjoymentandmeaninginyourcurrentwork,orcultivateahobbythatinvolvesdoingsomethingyoulove.既然我們成人生活的三分之一時間都在工作，那么做我們想做的事對我們的整體幸福感就有很大的影響。如果現(xiàn)在不能做你想做的事情，那就試著在你現(xiàn)在的工作中尋找快樂和意義，或者培養(yǎng)一個你喜愛的興趣。7.Liveinpresent.活在當(dāng)下。Whenyoufeeldepressed,you’relivinginthepast.Whenyoufeelworriedoranxious,you’relivinginthefuture.Butwhenyoufeelcontent,happyandpeaceful,you’relivinginthepresent.

你感到沮喪，是因?yàn)槟慊钤谶^去。你會感到擔(dān)憂和焦慮，是因?yàn)槟慊钤谖磥怼５钱?dāng)你感到滿足、開心和平和時，你才是活在當(dāng)下。8.Laughoften.要經(jīng)常笑。Laughteristhemostpowerfulanecdotetoangerordepression.Researchhasshownthatthesimpleactofcurvingthecornersofyourmouthcanincreaseyourfeelingofhappiness.Sodon’ttakelifetooseriously.Trytofindhumorandlaughterinlife’severydaystruggles.

笑是對抗生氣或沮喪最有力的的東西。研究表明，簡單的嘴巴上揚(yáng)也可以增加你的幸福感。不要把生活看得太嚴(yán)肅，要學(xué)會在每日的奮斗中尋找幽默感和笑聲。9.Practiceforgiveness.學(xué)會原諒Resentmentandangerareformsofself-punishment.Whenyouforgive,you’reactuallypracticingkindnesstoyourself.Andmostimportantly,learntoforgiveyourself.Everyonemakesmistakes.It’sthroughourmistakesthatwelearnandgrowtobecomeabiggerandbetterperson.

憎恨和生氣是對自我的懲罰。當(dāng)你釋懷的時候，事實(shí)上你是在對自己施以善意。最重要的是，學(xué)會原諒自己。每個人都會犯錯，只有通過我們的錯誤，我們才慢慢學(xué)會如何成為一個更強(qiáng)大、更好的人。10.Saythanksoften.要經(jīng)常說謝謝。Alwaysbeappreciativeoftheblessingsinyourlife.Andit’sequallyimportanttoexpressyourappreciationtothosewho’vemadeyourlifebetterinsomeway,bigorsmall.

對生活中的祝福要學(xué)會欣賞。向那些讓你生活變好的人，無論或大或小，表達(dá)出你的欣賞之情也同樣重要。11.Createdeeperconnections.學(xué)會深交。Ourhappinessmultiplieswhenweconnectandbondwithanotherhumanbeingonadeeperlevel.Andbeingfullypresentandlisteningaretwoofthemostimportantskillstostrengtheningthatbondandbringinghappinesstoourselves,andtoothers.我們的幸福感會在和另一個人的深交中不斷猛增。專注和聆聽是加強(qiáng)這種關(guān)系紐帶，也是把幸福感帶給自己和別人的兩個最重要的方面。12.Keepyouragreement.守承諾。Ourself-esteemisbuiltontheagreementswe’vemadewithourselves.Andhighself-esteemhasadirectcorrelationtohappiness.Sokeepyouragreementswithothersandwithyourself.

我們的自尊是建立在我們對自己守承諾的情況下。高度的自尊和幸福感有直接關(guān)聯(lián)，所以要對自己和別人遵守承諾。13.Meditate.冥想。

AccordingtoHarvard,peoplewhotake8sessionsofmindfulnessmeditationtrainingare,onaverage,20%happierthanacontrolgroup.Suchtrainingcanleadtostructuralbrainchangesincludingincreasedgrey-matterdensityinthehippocampus,knowntobeimportantforlearningandmemory,andinstructuresassociatedwithself-awareness,compassionandintrospection.根據(jù)哈佛研究表明，平均上過8次冥想訓(xùn)練的人要比控制狂多開心20%。冥想訓(xùn)練會讓大腦結(jié)構(gòu)產(chǎn)生變化，其中海馬體灰質(zhì)密度的增加與學(xué)習(xí)能力以及記憶力密切相關(guān)，其他結(jié)構(gòu)變化也會關(guān)系到自我意識、同情心以及內(nèi)省這三面的問題。14.Focusonwhatyou’redoing.關(guān)注你在做的事情。Whenyouputyourmind,heartandsoulintowhatyou’redoing,you’recreatingahappinessstate–calledthe“flow.”Whenyou’relivingintheflow,you’relesslikelytocareaboutwhatothersmaythinkofyou,andlessbotheredbythingsthatarenotthatimportant.Theresult?Morehappiness,ofcourse!

當(dāng)你全身心投入一件事的時候，你就會處于一個開心的狀態(tài)。當(dāng)我們處于這種狀態(tài)，你就不大會關(guān)心別人對你怎么看，不大會被不大重要的事情干擾。結(jié)果呢？當(dāng)然是更幸福！15.Beoptimistic.要樂觀。Forhappypeople,theglassisalwayshalf-full.Ifyourtendencyistoimaginetheveryworst-casescenarioeverytimeyoufaceachallenge,thentrainyourselftoreversethattendency.Askyourselfwhatgoodcancomeoutofthesituationorwhatyoucanlearnfromit.Optimismsurelyfuelssuccessandhappiness.

對于開心的人來說，玻璃杯都一直是半滿的。每當(dāng)你面對一個挑戰(zhàn)時，如果你傾向于想象最壞的想法，那就自我轉(zhuǎn)換這種情況，告訴你自己一個狀況中的好處或者你從中學(xué)到的東西。樂觀肯定能驅(qū)動成功和幸福感。16.Loveunconditionally.無條件地去愛。Nooneisperfect.Acceptyourselfforallofyourimperfections.Anddosoforothers.Lovingsomeoneunconditionallydoesnotmeanthatyouneedtospendallyourtimewiththemorhelpthemfigureouttheirproblems.Unconditionallovemeansacceptingpeopleastheyare,andallowingthemtofindtheirownways,attheirownpace.

沒人是完美的。接受你自己所有的不完美，也要這樣對待別人。無條件地愛一個人并不意味著你要花所有的時間和他們在一起，或者幫助他們解決問題。無條件的愛意味著接受真實(shí)的他們，以他們自己的步伐，讓他們自己摸索。17.Don’tgiveup.不要放棄。Unfinishedprojectsandrepeateddefeatsinevitablydampenone’sself-esteem.Ifyou’vemadeupyourmindtodosomething,seeitthrough.Don’tgiveupuntilyousucceed.Remember,failureistemporarybutdefeatispermanent.Anddefeatonlyoccurswhenyougiveup.

沒有完成的方案和不斷的失敗，不可避免地會削弱你的自尊。如果你決定做某事，做完它。在成功之前都不要放棄。要記住，失敗是暫時的。只有當(dāng)你放棄的時候，你才會被打敗。18.Doyourbestandthenletgo.做最好的自己，然后放手。Everyonehaslimitations,andthingsdon’talwaysturnouttobewhatwe’dlikethemtobe–despiteourefforts.Soalwaysgiveyourbest,andthenletgo.Leteventsruntheircourse.Whenyou’vedoneyourbest,you’llhavenoregrets.

每個人都有局限性。而且有時候盡管我們很努力做一件事情，但是總會事與愿違，所以做最好的自己，然后放手。當(dāng)你盡了全力，你就沒有遺憾了。19