Unit3

DailyVerbalCommunication(II)Unit3DailyVerbalCommunica2ObjectivesLearnthesocialfunctionsofcomplimentsandcomplimentresponsesLearnthedifferencesbetweenChineseandEnglishcompliments/complimentresposesLearnthedifferentexpressionsofgratitudeandapologyinEnglishandChinese2ObjectivesLearnthesocialfu3

CONTENTSI.Warm-upcasesII.DetailedStudy:SocialfunctionsofcomplimentsComplimentsandcomplimentresponsesDifferencesbetweenChineseandEnglishcomplimentsCommonresponseformulasofEnglishandChinesecomplimentsExpressionsofgratitudeandapologyinEnglishandChineseIII.CaseStudyIV.SummaryV.Assignments3CONTENTSI.Warm-up4Case1.AnInvitationtoDinnerI.Warm-upcasesQuestion:Ifyouwerethedirectorandchosentomediatethissituation,whatwouldyoudotoensurenottooffendeitherparty?HowwouldyouexplainBart’sbehaviortoManual?HowwouldyouexplainManual’stoBart?4Case1.AnInvitationtoDinn5Case2.TheCancellationoftheDinnerPartyComment:1.InNewZealand,afriendcanopenlyprovideconstructivecriticism.IfStandidnotmakesuchsuggestionstoafriendinhiscountry,thefriendwouldbeangrythatStandidnothelphimwhenhehadthechance.2.InPhilippines,apersoncannotbeafriendandacriticatthesametime,oratleastnotinpublic.Stanshouldfindsomeotherway(acceptabletotheFilipinos)tovoicehiscomments.5Case2.TheCancellationoft6Case3Whyshouldtheydolikethis?Comment:1.TheBritishpeoplemaintaintheiretiquetteandsocialmannersevenwhentheyareveryexcited.2.TheFilipinocoupledidnotintroducetheirFilipinofriendtohim3.TheFilipinosweretalkingintheirownnativelanguage.NodoubttheBritishfeltleftout,whichisunacceptableandrarelyoccursonsocialoccasionsinBritain.4.Whenimmigrantsmeetinaforeigncountry,theytendtotakenonoticeoftheirsurroundings/peoplearound,whichisconsideredtoberudeandrequiresattention.6Case3Whyshouldtheydolik7II.ComplimentsSocialfunctionsofcomplimentsB.ComplimentandcomplimentresponsesC.DifferencesbetweenChinesecomplimentsandEnglishcompliments(semanticformulaandsyntacticformula)D.CommonresponseformulasinEnglishandChineseE.Differentculturalassumptionsaboutcompliment7II.ComplimentsSocialfunctio8WorkingroupstodiscussthesocialfunctionsofComplimentsEg.greetingpeople,….Socialfunctionsofcompliments8Workingroupstodiscussthe9

OnbehalfofallyourAmericanguests,IwishtothankyoufortheincomparablehospitalityforwhichtheChinesepeoplearejustlyfamousforthroughouttheworld.Iparticularlywanttopaytribute,notonlytothosewhopreparedthemagnificentdinner,butalsotothosewhohaveprovidedthesplendidmusic.NeverhaveIheardAmericanmusicplayedbetterinaforeignland.-----byPresidentNixonatawelcomingpartyinhis1972visittoChina

Q:WhatisthesocialfunctionofNixon’scompliment?Case19OnbehalfofallyourAmer10(Abossmeetshisyoungfemaleemployeeinthemorning)A:Well,youlookgoodtoday.Youhavesuchniceclothes.B.Thankyou.Ihavehadthisforawhile.(Twoacquaintancesmeetinthestreet)A:Hi,Pat.Howareyoudoing?Youlooknice.B:Thanks,Anne.Sodoyou.MoreCases10(Abossmeetshisyoungfema11A:ThanksfortheChristmaspresentyousentme.It’ssoniceandjustwhatIneeded.B:I’mgladyoulikeit.(Twofriendsdecidetomakeupafteraquarrel.Onecomestotheapartmentoftheother.)A:Hi,Mary.Howareyou?B:OK.Howareyou?A:I’mfine.(pause)B:Oh,thisvaseisreallypretty,whendidyougetit?11A:ThanksfortheChristmas12Socialfunctionsofcompliments1.Tocreateorreinforcesolidarity2.Togreetpeople3.Toexpressthanksorcongratulations4.Toencourageagingpeople5.Tosoftencriticism6.Tostartaconversation7.Toovercomeembarrassment12Socialfunctionsofcomplime13

PositiveFunctions

ofCompliments

It'sagoodmannertocomplimentothers.Asincerecomplimentisalwaysawelcomeboosttosomeone’sday.

Ithelps

openupconversations,givepeoplealift,andraiseone’sself-esteem13

PositiveFunctionsofCompl14Ittakesconfidenceandself-esteemtonoticegoodthingsaboutothersandtomakethefirstcaringmovetotellthemaboutitYou’llalsofindwhenyoustartnoticinggoodthingsaboutpeople,you’llnoticemoregoodthingsaboutyoutoo!Andthemoreyoudo,themoreyourownself-esteemwillgrow.---RaisesYour

Self-EsteemGivingCompliments14---RaisesYour15ThinkaboutitHowoftendoyoucomplimenttheothers?Howdoyoufeelwhenyouarecomplimented?HowdoChinese/Englishspeakersrespondtocompliments?15ThinkaboutitHowoftendoy16WorkinPairstoactoutthefollowingtwocases:AyoungChinesewomanintheU.S.wascomplimentedbyanAmericanwomanforthelovelydressshewaswearing:“It’sexquisite.Thecolorsaresobeautiful!”Shewaspleasedbutsomewhatembarrassed.IntypicalChinesefashion,shereplied,“Oh,it’sjustanordinarydressIboughtinChina.”16WorkinPairstoactoutt17b.AtareceptionatanAmericancollege,Mr.Chen,anewly-arrivedChinesescholar,waschattingwiththehostess.Asanacquaintanceofthehostessapproached,shesaid,“Ron,letmeintroduceMr.Chen,anoutstandingphysicistandoneofthenicestpeopleIknow.”Mr.Chenofferedhishandtothenewcomerbutlookedatthehostessandsaidwithasmile,“ShouldIblush,orshouldItellhimyoudon’treallymeanit?”17b.AtareceptionatanAme18Discussion1.Inbothcases,whatmessageisconveyedbythewordsoftheChinese?2.Whatistheintention/implicationoftheChinese?18Discussion19

Discusshowyouwouldrespondinthefollowingsituationsandactthemout.Aforeignvisitorwaslookingatthehost’spottedflowerswithobviousadmiration.Theplantswerebloomingprofusely.Thehostremarkeddiffidently,“Growingflowersismyhobby,butI’mnotmuchgoodatit.”ACanadianaskedaChineseartteachertolookoveranarticlethatshehadwrittenaboutChinesepaintings.Heagreed,butaddedthat“Ireallyknowlittleaboutthesubject.”19Discusshowyouwould20Complimentsandcomplimentsresponses

Fishingforcompliments“Growingflowersismyhobby,butI’mnotmuchgoodatit”------“Buttheseflowersarebeautiful”“IwishIcoulddoaswell!”20Complimentsandcompliments21Fishingforcompliments“Ireallyknowlittleaboutthesubject.”-----“Well,Icertainlydon’tknowanybodywhoknowsmorethanyoudo!”21Fishingforcompliments22ChinesecomplimentsChinaisanoldcountrywithfivethousandyearscultureandcivilizationandknownforitsetiquette.22ChinesecomplimentsChinais23InfluencedbytheideaofConfucius,peopleextremelyvaluethepolitenessandregardmodestyasavirtueinthecommunication.whentheycommunicatewithothers,withapoliteandmodestpattern,theyareoftenconsiderateandunwillingtoannoyothersandtomakeothersfeelembarrassed.23InfluencedbytheideaofCo24要欣賞贊美別人。林肯說：人人愛聽恭維的話。恭維別人，不是虛偽。恭維別人，就是肯定對方的價值。增強他的信心和勇氣便于順利交流，這是于人于己都有利的好習慣。他是改良人際關系的催化劑。學會了贊美別人，你看人的角度都發(fā)生了變化，再不會把別人看成豆腐渣了。事實上，人人都是有你值得學習和肯定的地方的。Westerncompliments24要欣賞贊美別人。林肯說：人人愛聽恭維的話。恭維別人，不是25Englishcompliments西方人有一種習慣，見面除談天氣以外，喜歡向對方說一些恭維話（compliment）,表示贊美、敬意，或只是表示問候，或沒話找話的搭訕。恭維話的范圍很廣，從人的相貌、服裝、首飾，到發(fā)型、健康狀況，甚至會恭維你佩戴的一只手表、一只鋼筆。有人主張，聽到恭維話后，只需簡單地回答“Thankyou.”這固然不錯，然而在實際生活中，恭維話往往有許多不同情況，因此，回應也不應千篇一律。順便說一下，恭維話必須恰到好處，不能過分，否則就變成挖苦了。25Englishcompliments西方人有一種習慣，26DifferencesbetweenChineseandEnglishComplimentsW:ItiscommonforamantoinformallygiveawomancomplimentsonherlooksorclothingC:Itistakenasakindofflirtationifamancomplimentsawoman26DifferencesbetweenChinese27■Chinesepeoplecomplimenteachothermuchlessfrequentlythanwesternersdo.■Chinesepeopletrytodrawalinebetweencomplimentandflattery

■Chinesepeopleinterpretother’spositivecomplimentsasarequestforpossessingsomething.27■Chinesepeoplecompliment28TheSemanticFormulaEnglishcompliments:Adjectives

VerbsThiswasagreatmeal.Youlooksonicetoday.Youdidagoodjob.Ilikeyourhaircut.Iloveyourglasses.Ireallyenjoyedyourclass28TheSemanticFormulaEnglish29ChinesecomplimentsAdjectivesadverbs

verbsYourskirtisverypretty.Thisroomisreallygood.You’rereallyanexperiencedteacher.Youdidthejobverywell.Youtreatpeoplesincerely.Iespeciallylikethecolorofyourblouse.Youdeservebeingpraised.29ChinesecomplimentsAdjective30TheSyntacticFormulaNPADJ

PRO

V

ADV

OEnglish:NP

is/looksreally

ADJ(53%)Yourblouselooksbeautiful.Youaresoefficient.

Ireallylike/love

NPIreallylikeyourhardwoodfloors.That’sreallyabeautifulcar.30TheSyntacticFormulaNP31SyntacticpatternsinEnglishcomplimentThreemajorpatterns(about80%ofallcomplimentscollected)NPbe/look(intensifier)ADJ“Youlookreallynice.”ADJincludes:nice,good,beautiful,pretty,great,wonderful,lovely(Thisset=2/3ofallADJusedindata).I(intensifier)like/loveNP“Ireallylikethatskirt.”VERBincludes:like,love.enjoy,admire,beimpressedbyPRObe(intensifier)(a)ADJNP“That’sreallyanicecoat.”Formulaic(orconventional)Language:averylimitedsubsetofEnglishsentencestructureandvocabulary(andtopics)isusedtogivecompliments.TheSyntacticFormula31SyntacticpatternsinEnglis32TopicsAppearanceclothes,hairdo(resultsofdeliberateeffort)Ability(skill)/performanceawell-donejob,askillfullyplayedgame,agoodmealPersonality/friendship“Thatwaskind.”Possessions“Ilikeyournewbike.”32Topics33Chinese■YouVADVYoudidthejobwell.■NPisADJYourcoatisreallybeautiful.■PROisADJNPThat’sawonderfulwallcalendar.■PROVOYoudeservebeinghonored.■IlikeNPIlikethispicture.33Chinese■YouVADV34C&EMoreChinesecomplimentsbeginwith“you”or“your”;whileEnglishcomplimentswith“I”.MoreEnglishcomplimentscontainexaggeratedadjectiveslikegreat,awesome,terrific,gorgeous,fabulous,smart…34C&EMoreChinesecompliment35Don'tpraisepeople,only,whattheydoMakepraiseasspecificaspossibleAvoidphony(假的)praiseAvoidpraisethatsetsupcompetitionHowToGiveAGoodCompliment35Don'tpraisepeople,only,w36

A-Accurate:Thecomplimenthastoaccuratelyrefertowhathashappenedandwhatthepersonhasdone.B–Believable:Thecomplimentshouldnotbeanexaggerationbutrealistic.

C–Constructive:Thecomplimentshouldrefertowhatthepersonwantstoachieveandbeusefulformakingprogress.

36372)Backupyourcompliment.Don’tjuststopat“thatnecklacelooksreallygoodonyou”.Yourcomplimentbecomesstrongerwhenyousaywhyyouthinkso;“thatnecklacelooksreallygoodonyoubecauseitmatchesyoureyes”.1)Makeyourcomplimentspecific.“Thatnecklacelooksreallygoodonyou”makesabiggerimpactcomparedto“youlookreallygoodtoday”.Themorespecificthebetter,itmakesthepersonfeellikeyounoticethem.372)Backupyourcompliment.383)Askaquestionwithyourcompliment.Andifyouwanttouseitasaconversationalstarter,askaquestionaboutthesubjectofyourcompliment;“thatnecklacelooksreallygoodonyoubecauseitmatchesyoureyes.Wheredidyoufindit?”."Letmesay,youlookterrific,yoursenseofstyleisspot-on.Areyouadesignerofsomesort?"383)Askaquestionwithyour39ResponseFormulasofEandCcomplimentsAmericanEnglish

A:Thisisreallyanicesweater.B:I’mgladyoulikeit.

A:Youdidagoodjob.B:Thankyou/Thanks.Chinese:

A:Yoursweaterisverygood.B:Iboughtitonlyfortenyuan.

A:Youdidthejobverywell.B:That’stheresultofjointefforts./There’sstillmuchroomforimprovement.39ResponseFormulasofEandC40■

Generallyspeaking,nativeEnglishspeakerstendtoacceptthecomplimentswhiletheChinesetendtoeffacethemselvesinwordsalthoughtheydofeelcomfortableaboutthecompliments.Sometimeshumorousresponsescouldbeusedwhenwithintimatefriends.40■Generallyspeaking,native41Westernersusuallyacceptcomplimentsgladly.

"thanks.thatissokind"(regardingadress)"thankyou.Igotitasapresent".41Westernersusuallyacceptco42PeoplefromEasternculturetrytoreducetheextentofthecomplimentandalwayswanttoappearinferiortoothers.“Yourdresslooksgreat.”"No,it'snot.Yourdressisbetterthanmine."42PeoplefromEasternculture43InChineseculture,whenyouarepaidacompliment,itiscustomarytodeflect轉移thecomplimentbyspeakingbadlyofoneself:

"Youareverygoodatthepiano!"

"Well,Icanonlyplayafewsongs..."

"Youdidagreatjob!"

"No,itwastheeffortsofeveryonesupportingmethatmadeitpossible."

43InChineseculture,whenyou44Englishcomplimentsresponses1．

贊同型（西方國家多數人聽到恭維后采用這種類型的回應）（1）

接受恭維，心安理得<1>欣賞對方對自己的恭維

A:Ireallylikethatshirt.

B:Thanks./Thankyou./(Smile)<2>加以解釋、評論

A:Ilikeyourlonghair.

B:Me,too./Thanks,it’smyfavorite,too.<3>贊美升級

A:Well,youhaveagreathaircut.

B:That’sbecauseIhavethegreatesthairdresserintheworld.（2）

敘述來歷，不厭其煩A:Ilikeyourshoes.Theyarecute.B:Igotthesetwoyearsago.Mydressshoesworeout,soIwenttothemallwith$20andgotthese.

44Englishcomplimentsresponse45（3）

轉移目標，暗自接受恭維<1>不直接回答對方的恭維，而是重述一句，暗含對恭維的接受

A:That’sbeautifulnecklace.

B:Itwasmygrandmother’s.<2>用同樣的恭維回敬對方

A:Ilikeyourshirt,Sharon.

B:Thanks,Deb.Ilikeyours,too.2．

反對型（1）

降格，即暗示對方的恭維有不適之詞

A:Hey,that’sareallynicecar.

B:Youshouldhaveseenittwoyearsagowhenitwasnew.Itdidn’thavethedents(凹痕)then.

(2)質疑

A:Nicesweater.

B:Doyoureallythinkso?/What?Areyoukidding?/Youlikeit?45（3）

轉移目標，暗自接受恭維46<2>婉轉接受，而后用though,but,well等詞引入否定含義的回應

A:Youlookgoodinamoustache.

B:Yeah,butititches.It’sallright,butLeo’sisnicer.(3)不接受

<1>不贊成

A:Yourhairlooksgood.

B:It’stooshort./Ihateit.(4)不置可否（不接話茬，或沉默）

A:That’sabeautifulsweater.

B:Didyoufinishtheassignmentfortoday?/(Silence)3．

其他型（將對方的恭維當作一種要求）A:That’sanicebike.B:Well,youcanborrowitanytime./Letmeknowifyouwanttoborrowit.46<2>婉轉接受，而后用though,but,wel47Culturalassumptions“One’ssugarmaybeanotherone’spoison”.Howdothinkofthissaying?Whatis“assumption”?Whatis“culturalassumption”?47Culturalassumptions“One’ss48CulturalAssumption“Good”referstoone’shealth,appearanceandmannerinbothEandCcultures“Losingweight”meansgoodinEculturebutnotgoodinCculture“puttingonweight”canbeacomplimenttoChinesebutoffensivetoAmericans48CulturalAssumption“Good”re49CaseStudy1Story:

AChinesegovernmentofficialwenttovisitanEnglishdiplomatwithhiswifeandaninterpreter.Aftertheroutinegreetings,theEnglishdiplomatsaidtotheofficial,“Yourwifeisverypretty.”Theofficialresponded,“哪里，哪里”todenythefact.Thetheinterpretertranslateditas,“Notatall!”Thediplomatwasastonishedandsaid,“Ofcoursesheis.”Hearingthisreply,theofficialwasveryannoyed,asheconsidereditaninsultaccordingtohisownculturalbackground.Q1:WhatdoyouthinkoftheChineseofficial’sresponsetothecompliment?Q2:Whatwouldyouranswerbetoit?49CaseStudy1Story:AChinese50CaseStudy2LiHongisanewteacherinamiddleschool.Oneday,oneofherChinesecolleagues,YangZhen,introduceshertotheirmiddle-agedexpatriateteacherMaggy.Yang:LiHong,thisisMaggy,ourEnglishteacherfromAmerica.AndMaggy,thisisLiHong,ournewcolleague.LiandMaggy:Howdoyoudo!Maggy:Yoursweaterissosmart.Li:Oh,itisonlyanoldone.Iboughtitlastyear.Maggy:You’resoyoungandsmart.Iamsureyouareagoodteacher.Li:No,no.Iamjustanewcomer.Ishouldlearnfromyouoldteachers.Maggylookssurprisedandthinks,“Iamreallysoold?”50CaseStudy2LiHongisanew51CaseStudy3YangyanghasinvitedaCanadianfriend,Julia,toherhomeforameal.Unfortunately,theoccasiongetsofftoaratherbumpystart.YangYang:Hi,Julia,welcome!Comein,comein!Julia:Thankyouforinvitingme.Thisisalovelyroom.YangYang:Myroomisverysamllanduntidy.Pleasesitdownandhaveacupoftea.Youmustbetiredonsuchahotday.Julia:Oh,yourroomisperfectlycleanandtidy!Andasforthewalk,I’mverystrong,youknow.Iusuallywalkforatleastanhoureveryday.Don’tyouthinkwalkingisagoodwaytokeepfit?YangYang:Yes,Ido.Dinnerisready.Pleasesitatthetable.Julia:Wow!Somanydishes—four!Theyalllookdelicious.YangYang:I’msorryI’mnotaverygoodcook.Theseareallcolddishes.51CaseStudy3Yangyanghasin52Lateroninthemeal,justbeforetheyfinishthecolddishes,fourhotdishesareplacedonthetable.Julia:Anotherfour!There’sonlytwoofuseating.YangYang:Nevermind,pleasetrymore.IamsorryIhavepreparedsolittle.Ifthereweremorepeople,therewouldbeeightcolddishesandeighthotdishes,becauseyouaremydistinguishedguest.Julia:No,it’snottoolittle.It’smorethanenough,“Goule,Goule.”Q1:WhyisJuliasurprised?What’swrongwithherconversation?Q2:HowcanYangYangbeabetterhosttoherCanadianguestsoshecanhelpherlearnaboutChineseculture?52Lateroninthemeal,justb53CaseStudy—AppropriateMannerYangYang:Hi,Julia,welcome!Comein,comein!Julia:Thankyouforinvitingme.Thisisalovelyroom.YangYang:Thankyou.Pleasehaveaseat.Wouldyoulikeacupoftea?Julia:Yes,Iwould.YangYang:Wasitdifficulttofindmyplace?Julia:No,yourdirectionswereveryhelpful.YangYang:It’sonlyMay,butit’squitehotoutsidetoday.Howlongdidittakeyoutocomehere?Julia:Itonlytook30minutestogethere.You’reright,itishot,butIdon’tmindthehotsun.YangYang:Yes,Ido.Dinnerisready.Pleasesitatthetable.Julia:Wow!Somanydishes—four!Theyalllookdelicious.53CaseStudy—AppropriateManne54CaseStudy—AppropriateMannerYangYang:Thankyou.Ipreparedthembymyself.Ihopeyoulikethem.Pleasehelpyourself.Julia:They’redelicious.IdoenjoyChinesefoods.YangYang:I’mgladyoulikethem.Butleavesomeroomforanotherfourhotdishes.Julia:Really?Anotherfour!Thisisarealfeast!YangYang:You’reright.YouknowinChina,numbershavesignificance,eventhenumberoffooddishesweserveaguest.Weprepareevennumbersbutnotthesingularones.Thefigure“eight”isaluckynumberinChinese,andtwosetsofeightdisheswouldbepreparedfordistinguishedguests.IamsorryIdidn’tpreparethatmanyforyou—mydistinguishedguest.Julia:ButIthoughtitwouldreallybetoomuchfood.Whenthereareonlytwopeopleeating,fourhotdishesplusfourcolddishesisconsideredafeast.Ifeelhonoredindeed.Howsweetyouare!54CaseStudy—AppropriateManne55III.ExpressionsofgratitudeandapologyTheexpressionsarefarmorefrequentlyusedinEnglishthaninChinese.Chineseoftenneglectminorfavorsespeciallyamongfriendsandmembersoffamily.Theythinktheexpressionsofgratitudeandapologyunnecessaryandeventiresome.55III.Expressionsofgratitud56SomespecialChineseexpressionsItdoesn’tmatter.沒關系Nevermind.不要緊（responsestoapology）You’rewelcome.不用謝It’smypleasure.沒關系（responsestogratitude）56SomespecialChineseexpress57ExercisesA.ComprehensionCheck1.T2.T3.T4.F5.T6.F7.F8.F9.F10.TB.MatchtheEuphemismsnethergarmentslunaticCallyourcarriageforyouamanofbadtastePlainaprostitutePatienttrousersAmanofdoubtfultasteuglyAladyofthetownaskyoutogoaway

5757ExercisesA.ComprehensionC58ExerciseE(AllofthefollowinganswersapplyonlyintheU.S.)Inthissituation,itwouldnotbenecessarytogiveagift,particularlyifyouhavebeenpayingfortheprivateclasseswiththetutor.Ifyoulike,youmightbringsomethingtothelastclass,suchascandyorflowers.Inthissituation,itisdefinitelynotanAmericanpracticetobringagifttothesupervisor.Itisthesupervisor’sjobtosuperviseyou.Youhaveworkedhardtoearntheexcellentreview.Ifyougavehimorheragift,thesupervisormightmisunderstand.5858ExerciseE(Allofthefo59ExerciseE(AllofthefollowinganswersapplyonlyintheU.S.)3.Inthissituation,ateacherwouldnotexpectagift,butwouldexpectyoutothankhimorhersincerelyfortheextratimespent.Mostlikely,theteacher’srewardwouldcomefromyourunderstandingthedifficultsubject.4.Inthissituation,yourco-workerdoesnotexpectapresentfromsomeoneheorshedoesn’tknowwellanditmightevenmakehimorheruncomfortabletoreceiveone.Ratherthangivingindividualpresents,itismoreusualforco-workerstobuyagiftcollectively.Thatis,eachpersoncontributessomemoneyandonepersonbuysagiftwiththemoney.5959ExerciseE(Allofthefo60ExerciseE(AllofthefollowinganswersapplyonlyintheU.S.)5.Inthissituation,itwouldbeanicegesturetogiveagifttoyourneighborortoinviteyourneighbor’sfamilyoverforameal.6.See5.6060ExerciseE(Allofthefo61ExerciseFCulturalPuzzles1.a)No.Youneedtounderstandthereasonswhyyourbossdoesn’tacceptthegiftinsteadofthreatenhimorher.b)Yes.Thiswouldshowthatyourespecthimorher.Itwouldalsoshowthatyouareopen-minded.c)No.Youcantrytoencouragetheotherpersontoacceptthegiftbyofferingittwiceorthreetimesatthemost.Insistingmanytimesmightcausethepersontobecomeangry.6161ExerciseFCulturalPuzzles62ExerciseF2.a)No.Joewouldprobablynotapologizebecause,fromhispointofview,hemaynotfeelthathehasdoneanythingwrong.IfGaryhadaskedJoenottogooutwithJenniferbeforebecausehewasinterestedinher,Joemighthaveapologized.b)Yes.Thisisverypossible.Joemightalsohavesaid,“Youshouldhaveaskedmenottogooutwithher.Wedidn’tagreeonanything.”c)Yes.Thisisalsopossible.Sometimespeoplereactquicklyandangrilywhensomeonesayssodirectly,“I’mangryatyou.”6262ExerciseF2.a)No.Joewou63IV.SummaryComplimentsandresponsesDifferencesbetweenChineseandEnglishcomplimentsResponseFormulasofEandCcomplimentsExpressionsofgratitudeandapologyinEnglishandChinese63IV.Summary64V.Assignments1.Roleplay1)Theguestcomplimentsthemeal2)You’reatapartywithotherstudentsfromtheuniversity.Youdon’tknowanybodyandyou’dliketomeetafewpeopleandstartaconversation.2.VideoWatching

USA《走遍美國》64V.Assignments1.RoleplayThankYou!ThankYou!Unit3

DailyVerbalCommunication(II)Unit3DailyVerbalCommunica67ObjectivesLearnthesocialfunctionsofcomplimentsandcomplimentresponsesLearnthedifferencesbetweenChineseandEnglishcompliments/complimentresposesLearnthedifferentexpressionsofgratitudeandapologyinEnglishandChinese2ObjectivesLearnthesocialfu68

CONTENTSI.Warm-upcasesII.DetailedStudy:SocialfunctionsofcomplimentsComplimentsandcomplimentresponsesDifferencesbetweenChineseandEnglishcomplimentsCommonresponseformulasofEnglishandChinesecomplimentsExpressionsofgratitudeandapologyinEnglishandChineseIII.CaseStudyIV.SummaryV.Assignments3CONTENTSI.Warm-up69Case1.AnInvitationtoDinnerI.Warm-upcasesQuestion:Ifyouwerethedirectorandchosentomediatethissituation,whatwouldyoudotoensurenottooffendeitherparty?HowwouldyouexplainBart’sbehaviortoManual?HowwouldyouexplainManual’stoBart?4Case1.AnInvitationtoDinn70Case2.TheCancellationoftheDinnerPartyComment:1.InNewZealand,afriendcanopenlyprovideconstructivecriticism.IfStandidnotmakesuchsuggestionstoafriendinhiscountry,thefriendwouldbeangrythatStandidnothelphimwhenhehadthechance.2.InPhilippines,apersoncannotbeafriendandacriticatthesametime,oratleastnotinpublic.Stanshouldfindsomeotherway(acceptabletotheFilipinos)tovoicehiscomments.5Case2.TheCancellationoft71Case3Whyshouldtheydolikethis?Comment:1.TheBritishpeoplemaintaintheiretiquetteandsocialmannersevenwhentheyareveryexcited.2.TheFilipinocoupledidnotintroducetheirFilipinofriendtohim3.TheFilipinosweretalkingintheirownnativelanguage.NodoubttheBritishfeltleftout,whichisunacceptableandrarelyoccursonsocialoccasionsinBritain.4.Whenimmigrantsmeetinaforeigncountry,theytendtotakenonoticeoftheirsurroundings/peoplearound,whichisconsideredtoberudeandrequiresattention.6Case3Whyshouldtheydolik72II.ComplimentsSocialfunctionsofcomplimentsB.ComplimentandcomplimentresponsesC.DifferencesbetweenChinesecomplimentsandEnglishcompliments(semanticformulaandsyntacticformula)D.CommonresponseformulasinEnglishandChineseE.Differentculturalassumptionsaboutcompliment7II.ComplimentsSocialfunctio73WorkingroupstodiscussthesocialfunctionsofComplimentsEg.greetingpeople,….Socialfunctionsofcompliments8Workingroupstodiscussthe74

OnbehalfofallyourAmericanguests,Iwishtothankyoufortheincomparable