AcknowledgementsThanksforgivingmethischancetoachievethispaperandtomaketheconclusionformyfouryears’education.Throughwritingthispaper,IhavegainedmoreknowledgethanIsupposed.Mysincerethanksareduetomysupervisor,Mr.Wangforhelpingmetoclarifymythoughtandsharpenmythinking.Here,Ialsowanttogivemythankstootherteachersandmyclassmateswhogavememuchhelp.Thankyou!AbstractEverythingINeverToldYouisChineseAmericanwomanwriterCelesteNgtookhersixyearstodebut,withhighreputation;shepulledethnicandculturalconflictsoftheUnitedStatesundertheeavesofafamily.Oncepublished,thebookhadreceivedwidepublicattention.ThebooktellsatragicstoryofachildwhoborninacrossethnicfamilynamedLydia;shefinallytowardsdeathduetotheunbearableloveandexpectationoftheparents.Thenovelisdividedintotwolines;oneisthefamilyguess,andtheotherisLydia’srecountbyherself.CelesteNgportraysafamilywhichattempttoconductinthetorrentofhistory,andayounggirlwhotriesherbesttointegrateintosociety.Thispaperisdividedintofourparts.Thefirstpartintroducestheauthorandtheworksindetail;thesecondpartexpoundsontheinternalfactorsofLydia’stragedy,whichwerecausedbyhercharactersandself-consciousnessfromtherespectiveofLydia;thethirdpartisananalysisoftheinevitabilityofLydia’stragedyfromtheexternalfactorsoffamilyeducation,familymembersandsocialcontradictions.Thefourthpartisthesummaryofthisthesis.Throughtheanalysisweknowthattherealcauseofthistragedyisthefailureoffamilyeducationandtheinfluenceofsocialenvironment.Theauthorthinksthatpeopleshouldberidofothers’expectationtofindtheirtrueselfintheprocessofgrowingup.KeyWords:tragedy;self-consciousness;familyeducation;socialenvironment摘要《無聲告白》是華裔女作家武綺詩(shī)耗時(shí)六年的處女作，滿載盛譽(yù)，她將華裔在美國(guó)面臨的種族和文化沖突拉到用一個(gè)家庭的屋檐下。此書一經(jīng)發(fā)表便得到社會(huì)的廣泛關(guān)注。該書講述了一個(gè)出生在跨族裔家庭的孩子莉迪亞因不堪承受父母過分的愛與期待而走向死亡的悲劇故事。小說分為兩線，一條是家人猜測(cè)，一條是莉迪亞的自述。伍琦詩(shī)用深沉飽滿的文筆，描繪了一個(gè)在歷史洪流中企圖立身的家庭，與一名為融入社會(huì)而竭盡全力的年輕女孩。本文共分為四個(gè)部分，第一部分將對(duì)作者與作品詳細(xì)的介紹。第二部分從人物自身出發(fā)，闡述了主人公性格和自我意識(shí)導(dǎo)致悲劇的內(nèi)部因素。第三部分將從家庭教育、家庭成員間關(guān)系、社會(huì)矛盾所構(gòu)成的外部因素來深入剖析莉迪亞悲劇的不可避免性。第四部分主要對(duì)本篇論文進(jìn)行總結(jié)。最終得出造成此悲劇發(fā)生的真正原因是家庭教育的失敗和社會(huì)環(huán)境的影響。筆者認(rèn)為人在成長(zhǎng)過程中應(yīng)擺脫他人眼中的自己找到真正的自己。關(guān)鍵詞：悲??；自我意識(shí)；家庭教育；社會(huì)環(huán)境TheAnalysisofLydia’sTragedyofEverythingINeverToldYou1.IntroductionCelesteNgisthesecondgenerationofimmigrantsinHongKong,grewupinPennsylvaniaandOhiowhoengagedinwritingformanyyears,andworkedinvariousjournals.EverythingINeverToldYouisthefirstfull-lengthnovelwhichCelesteNgtooksixyearstowrite.Theexperienceofherimmigrationhasgivenherauniqueperspectivetoarrangethestorycarefully,andthestyleofwritingwascalmandreserved.Oncepublished,thisbookiswellreceivedbythecommunity,andbecomesthedarkhorseof2014yearofthemostpopularandpowerful.ItnotonlyjumpedtotheNewYorkTimesbest-sellingbook,butalsoaccessedtothebestbookoftheyear2014,whichwereselectedbynumerousmediaincludingtheAmazonwebsiteofUnitedStates,NationalPublicRadiobestbookoftheyear,Buzzedbestfictionbooks,“Huffingtonpost”and“Oprah”bestbooksoftheyear15fortheyeartoreadliteratureandfictionbooksandmanyotherhonors.ThenovelnarratesatragicstoryofamixedracefamilyinasmalltownintheUnitedStatesin1970s.Aroundthedeathoftheseconddaughter,Lydiainthisfamily,theauthorshowsthesurfaceoftheharmoniousfamilyproblemsandsecretburiedintheheartsofeveryoneinthisfamilyfromdifferentlevels.Inthenovel,Lydia’sfather,Jameswantedtointegrateintotheenvironment;hermother,Marilynwaseagertoescapeoutoftheordinarypeople;herbrother,Nathgotawayfromfamilyregardlessofpersonaldanger.Lydiabaredthedualloveofparents,littledaughterHannahexistedlikeair.Finally,thedeathwouldshowalltheproblems,everyonehadtofacethecruelreality.Untiltheendofthenovel,Lydia’sdeathwasamystery.Howshedied?Andhowshouldeverylivingmancontinuetoliveafterherdeath.

TheauthorabandonstheidentityofChineseAmericansandtheidentityofNativeAmericansasanoutsidertoexploretheachievementsoflife,race,gender,familyandpersonalpath,givingfullexpressionofthefamily’sstressandburdenwhichiscausedbythesociety.Sherepresentedsomevaluablethingsthattranscendnationandculture.Thatistheuniversallifeexperienceofpeople—family,loveandloss,everyonecanfindtheirownshadowmoreorlessfromthecharactersinthebook.Sincethenovelwaspublished,manyscholarshaveuseddifferenttheoriestoexplainthenovelfromdifferentperspectives.However,mostofthestudiesarefocusedonwomen’sconsciousness,parent-childcycleandthewritingofmarginalcharacters.ThisthesisisforthepurposeofanalyzingthecausesofLydia’stragedy.Throughtheanalysisofitsinternalandexternalfactorstoreflecttheimportanceoffamilyandsocialenvironmentforpersonalgrowth,andtheauthorhopesthiswillattractattentionofeveryoneinsociety.2.TheInternalReasonsofLydia’sTragedyLydiaisLee’ssecondchild.Sheistheonlychildinthefamilytoinheritthemother’sblueeyes,soshecouldgetmoreattentionandlovefromherparents.TheythoughtthatLydiawouldbeabletofulfilltheirwishesandmeettheirexpectations.Becauseofthisspecialconcern,Lydiadependedonhisparentsfromchildhood.Whenshewasfiveyearsold,thesuddendisappearanceofhermothermadeLydialoseherbalanceandfearthelifewithouthermother.Lydiamadeuphismindthatifhermothercameback,shewoulddoeverythinghermotherwanted.Fromthenon,shelostherselfandstruggledinhermother'sdream,becomingapersonwhoherparentswantedtosee.2.1TheCharacterofLydiaPersonalitydeterminesaperson’slaterdevelopment.Lydiawasacleverandsensiblechild,butshewasveryindependent.Lydia’ssubmissivepersonalitymadehercouldnotfindherownpositioninthehighlyanticipatedenvironmentofparents,whichledtothetragedy.Somepeoplehavestrongindependenceinlife,vulnerabletotheimpactoftheexternalenvironment,easytogotoextremes.“Inordertogetotherswarmthorpsychologicalsatisfaction,peoplewillgiveuptheirownhobbies,evencompromises.Therefore,thiskindofpsychologywillgraduallylimitandhindertheirinitiative,independenceandhobbies.

Whentherelationshipends,thereisanunusualsenseofhopelessnessorasenseofdoom.”(Yang93).Thiskindofperformancefromtheviewofpsychologicalpointisadependentpersonalitydisorder.Thissymptomoftencamefromachildhoodexperience.Themainbehavioralcharacteristicsofdependentpersonalitywereobedienceandattachment,andfearofseparation.Lydiainthenovelwasatypicalpatientwithdependentpersonalitydisorder.Hersymptomswereabsoluteobediencetohermotherandattachmenttoherbrother.Asapearlinthepalmoftheparents,Lydiadependedonhisparentssinceshewasyoung.Afterthedisappearanceofhermother,shebegantohavenightmareseverynightandthoughtthathermother’sdeparturewasduetoherfailuretomeetherexpectations.SoLydiadeterminedthatshewouldmeeteveryrequestofhermotherandneverlethermotherdownaslongashermothercouldgoback.Lydiabeganthelifeagainstherwillafterhermotherreturningtothefamily.“Everynightasmallpromiseextractedfromhermother:thatshewouldbethereinthemorning.Andinreturn,Lydiakeptherownpromise:shedideverythinghermotherasked.”(Wu145-146).Lydiausedherholidaystohavelessonsinexchangeforherparents’happiness,althoughshewasnotinterestedinthosecourses.Astimewentby,Lydiahadtotakemoreandmorelessons,andhermother’sincreasingdemandsmadeLydiaunhappy.Sheknewclearlythatshecouldnothavealifeapartfromadoctor.AlthoughLydiahadnodesireforthelifewhichwasarrangedbyhermother,sheneversaidno,butchosetokeepherpromisetohermother.Forthefather’sexpectations,Lydiahadtomeetherfather’srequestwithnumerousliesbecauseshelosttheopportunitytomakefriendswhenshewassatisfiedwithhermother.Andsheneversaidanythingaboutthistoherparents.Evenineachfestivalwhenherparentsgaveheragiftshedidnotlike,shewouldendurethemoodtoacceptitwithafakesmile,andthenputitaside.Sheknewthateverygiftwascarriedtheexpectationsandloveofherparents,whichmadeherbreathless.HoweverLydia’ssubmissivepersonalitymadeheracceptthesepressuresagainandagain.Despitetheinnerstruggle,cowardicemadeLydiacouldnotresisthermother.Andlettheirresistiblepainswallowheralreadynumbsoul.Lydiawastheuniversalcenterofthewholefamilyandtakesontheresponsibilityofunitingthewholefamilyeveryday.Sheforcedtocarryoutthedreamofparents,repressedthebitterbubbleconstantlyraisedintheprivacyofherhearts.Onlyherbrothercouldgivehersomecomfortswhenshewasdepressed.Soshebegantorelyonherbrother.Sheevenhidtheletterofadmissionofherbrotherinordertopreventhisdeparture,andalsodeliberatelyplayedwithJackwhowashatedbyherbrothertoexpressherdissatisfactiontohisbrother.Weaknessanddependencehadmadeherlosehermind.IfNathistheonlylife-savingstrawofLydia,shehadlostthelastsupportnow.IfLydiawasnotdependedonherparentsandherbrother,buttoexerciseherindependentlivingabilitystepbystep,andnowthiswasnotgoingtobeabigblowtoher.“SomethingwobbledinsideLydiaandtumbledintoherchestwithaclang......”(Wu167).Lydia,whohadlosthissupport,couldnolongerstandtheweightofhisbody.Shefellintotheabyssoftragedyundertheheavyloveofherparents.2.2TheSelf-consciousnessofLydiaSelf-consciousnessreferstotheindividual’sunderstandingofthestateofmindandbody,experience,anddesire,andalsotheunderstandingoftherelationshipbetweenthemandtheirsurroundings.Itplaysanimportantroleintheformationanddevelopmentofpersonalityandaffectstheformingspeed,nature,initiativeandautonomyofpersonality.2.2.1TheLackofSelf-consciousnessThroughoutallourlives,peoplewillberidofotherpeople’sexpectations,andfindthetrueself.Lydiahadbeenlivinginhisparents’expectation,lackedofdominantself-awareness,soshecouldn'tunderstandherselfclearly.Thelackofself-consciousnessofLydiawascausedbymanyfactors.Firstofall,whenLydiawasyoungthesuddendisappearanceofhermotherbroughtspiritualinjurytoher.ThedevelopmentofLydiaself-consciousnesswashinderedundertheinfluenceoffearoflosingthesenseoffamilysecurity,soshewouldtrytosatisfywhenherparentsraisedaclaimtoher,andsheknewnothingabouttherealneedsofherheart.Secondly,Lydiadidn’thaveanyfriendsastheonlywhitegirlinschool.Andherdistinctivemadeherhardtoreachthesocialenvironment.Onlyinthehumansocialenvironmentcouldapersongrowanddevelop,

andunderstandtheworldaroundtheminagrowingenvironment;

atthesametimetheyalsohavetheirownunderstanding.Lydiaspentallhistimeinschoolandfamily.Althoughherfatherwantedhertobeabletointegrateintothecircleoffriends,shedidn’thaveafriendandcan'tbeintegratedinanormalsocialenvironment.Withthegrowthofage,Lydiawasstillstrangetotheworldaroundher,sothatshewasdifficulttorealizetheroleofthesocietyandalsocouldnotgiveherselfaclearpositioning.Finally,themostimportantistheobjectiveimpactofthefamily.Thefamilyplayedakeyroleintheformationanddevelopmentofherindividualself-consciousness.“Parents’satisfaction,education,interest,attitudeandwayofdealingwithchildrenweresignificantlyrelatedtoself-concept.”(Hattie181-189).Lydiafoundthatshecouldgethugandkissfromhermotherwhensheansweredthequestionsraisedbyhermother,soshebeggedtoanswermorequestions.Whenhermothergaveheradvice,Lydiacouldfindthathermotherwouldholdherbreathuntilsheanswered“yes”.Hermotherwouldbreatheagain,andthisrestrictedtheformationofLydia’sself-consciousnessfundamentally.Lydiadidnotthinkaboutherrealneedsofheart,inadditiontomeetingtheexpectationsofparents.Ifonecannotrecognizeone’sownneeds,hewouldbecomeabodywithoutsoulandatthemercyofotherpeople.Lydiawasanunconscioussupporterandjustadepositorofherparent’sdream.Herlifewasstressfulandpainful;anadolescentgirlshouldhavehappiness,butsheneverhadit.Lydiaenduredthepressureofherparentsandcouldnotgetridofitsinceshewasyoung.2.2.2AwakeningofHerSelf-consciousnessEachperson’sself-consciousnessisnotinnatebutformedgradually.Whenwemakefriendswithotherpeople,wedevelopself-consciousnesswhichaccordingtoideaandevaluationfromothers.Lydiawasthevictimofunconsciousnessandself-consciousness.Sheusedtolackself-awarenessandjustwantedtoplayherpartinthefamilytopleaseherparents.Lydia’sself-consciousnessbegantocomebacktolifewhenherbrotherwhowastheonlyspiritualpillarofherwouldleaveforanewlife.Lydiahidhisbrother’snoticebecauseshedidnotwanttoloseherspiritualsustenance.ShehadacloserelationwithJackdeliberatelyinordertorevengeherbrotherandwantedtobecomeameangirl.WhenhermotherpresentedtheacademichelptoLydia,sherevolteditforthefirsttime.“Itoldyou,Idon’tneedyourhelp.”(Wu268).ItwasthefirsttimethatLydiahadcriedangrilytohermotherandthismeanssheisstartingtoknowwhatsheneeds;shedidnotwanttocaterherparentsanymore.Lydiawaseagertochangeafteryearsofstruggle,andshedidnotwanttoexpressherfeelingsfalselyassheusedto.WhenLydiafailedtopassthedriver’slicenseforthebeginner,herfatherhuggedherandcomfortedherbutLydiafelttheweightofhisbodyasablanket,soshethrewoffhisarm.LydiapulledthenecklaceoffimmediatelywhenHannahworeitwhichwassupposedtobeashackleLydiathoughttobe.Everytimeshesawthisnecklace,herfather’svoicealwaysechoedintheear,“Wheneveryouseeit,don’tforgetwhatisreallyimportant”.(Wu257).Lydiasatisfiedherfatherallthetime;shehadbeenexperiencingtheinnerstruggle,soshewouldnevermakeHannafollowinherfootstep.Andshecametorealizethatshewasnolongerabletobeartheexcessiveloveofherparents.Lydia’sself-awarenessawakeningthoroughlyuntilsheheardjack’swords.“AtleastIdon’tletotherpeopletellmewhatIwant.IknowwhoIamandwhatIwant.Whataboutyou,MissLee?Whatdoyouwant?AtleastIdon’tletotherpeopletellmewhattodoallthetime.AtleastIamnotafraid.”(Wu266).Lydiawantedtoanswerbutonlytokeepsilence,andsherealizedthatshewaswrongthoroughly.Andtore-examineherownlivesandyearsofinnerstruggle,Lydiadidnotwanttobetheonewhowaslivingunderother’sarrangement;shejustwantedtolistentoherheartandbetruetoherself.Butitwastoolatethatdarknesshadsurroundedheralreadyandlickedupthelightoverherheadbitbybit.Finally,Lydiasankintothelake;thetragedytookplaceinthisfamilyoffive.However,Lydia’sdeathwasarebirthforherorforthewholefamily.3.TheExternalReasonsofLydia’sTragedyInadditiontoitsowninternalfactors,Lydia’stragedycan’tbeseparatedfromtheexternalenvironmentfactors.Lydia’sfatherwasthesecondgenerationofChineseimmigrants,grewupintheUnitedStates.However,theracialdiscriminationwasnoteliminatedinthatera,sohewaseagertointegrateintothecrowds.Lydia’smotherwasawhitegirlwithalotofhopeandambitions;shewantedtobeequaltomenandtobedifferent.Thisfamilycombinationintheeraoftheenvironmentwasparticularlyspecial.Lydia’sparentsreceivededucationintheoriginalfamilyandtheirdifferentexperiencesandpursuitsinlifedeterminedthedifferenceoftheireducationalideas.However,theimbalancebetweenfamilymembersalsomadetheexistenceofcrisisinthisseeminglyhappyfamilywiththesocialenvironmentatthattimeinevitablywhichledtothetragicendingofLydia.3.1TheEducationofFamily“Familyeducationistheearliesteducationinlife,isthefoundationofalleducation;parentsarethechildren’sfirstteachers,butalsoarelife-longteachers.”(Chen152).Familyeducationisaneducationwhichistheparent-childrelationshipcenteredwiththelife,whichismoreassociatedwithemotional,affectiveandpersonalcharacteristics,andcangivetheirchildrenalongandprofoundinfluence;itsadvantagesanddisadvantagesarerelatedtochildren’squalityoflife,emotionandpersonalitydevelopment.Lydialivedinacrossethnicfamily;herfatherreceivedChineseEducationathomeandreceivedWesterneducationinschool;hermotheracceptedWesterntraditionaleducationbutdidnotagreewithit.Theyformedtheirowneducationalideasundertheinfluenceoftheiroriginalfamilies,andtheyaimedtotheideathatlettheirchildrenavoidrepeatingthesamemistakes,makingLydiaturnintothevictimoffailurefamilyeducation.Therefore,thedifferenceofparents’educationalideasincreasestheinevitabilityofLydia’stragedy.3.1.1TheEducationofAmericanMotherInthenovel,Lydia’smother,Marilyn,whowasabeautifulandnaturalwhitegirl,andfullofdreamsandambitions,endeavoredtogaintheupperhandwithhermother’sexpectation.Marilyn’smother,Doris,wasatypicalhousewifewhoworkedasahomeeconomicsteacheratahighschool,shehopedMarilyntomarryagoodHarvardmanandthentobeahousewife.Marilyn,however,wasstronglyopposedtothemother’sintervention;shewaseagertobeadistinctivewomanandhopedtoachievesuccessinthepatriarchalsociety;shedreamedtobeafemaledoctor.Marilynthoughtofmother’sinsignificant,lonelylife;shesworetoherselfthatshecouldneverlivelikethis.Shewantedtolivealifethatwasverydifferentfromhermother.ShemarriedJamesLeeforthedestiny,failedtorealizethedreamofadoctorbutbecameamothertotakecareofthechild.Marilyncouldnolongerbeartheoppressionofthehear;shepackeduphermother’slegacy;shedecidedtoregainthedreamtoreturntoschooltocompleteherstudiesandhadtocompromiseonrealityduetothepregnantwiththirdchild.SoMarilynpassedhisunfinisheddreamontoLydia.Marilynwouldnotbelikeherownmother,shuntingherdaughtertowardhusbandandhouse,alifespentsafelybehindadeadbolt.ShewouldhelpLydiadoeverythingshewascapableof.ShewouldspendtherestofheryearsguidingLydia,shelteringher,thewayyoutendedaprizerose:helpingitgrow,proppingitwithstakes,archingeachstemtowardperfection.(Wu143).SheignoredLydia’sfeelingscompletely.MarilyndidnotrealizehowmuchpsychologicaldamageshebroughttoLydiaaftertheSecondWorldWar;theUnitedStateshadapopularviewthatwomenshouldreturntotheirfamilies.Marilynreceivededucationinthisenvironmentbutdidnotagreewiththisvalue.MarilynhadneverthoughtofwhatLydiareallywanted,andherfulllovewasactuallyaburdentoLydia.Asadaughter,Marilynmettheexpectationsofhermotherreluctantlyalthoughshewasunwillingtodothis.Asamother,shehadusedherownrightsexcessively,inthenameoflovetrappedherdaughterinthecageofherown.AllherlifeMarilynwentagainsthermother’swishestopursueherowndream;shedidnotmeethermotheruntilhermotherdied,anditshowedthatshewasdetestablethathermotherinterferedwithherlife.However,sheintervenedanddeprivedLydia’srighttopursueherlife.Yourchildrenarenotyourchildren.TheyarethesonsanddaughtersofLife’slongingforitself.Theycomethroughyoubutnotfromyou,Andthoughtheyarewithyou,yettheybelongnottoyou.Youmaygivethemyourlovebutnotyourthought,Fortheyhavetheirownthoughts.(Gibran1-6).AndherwrongconceptofeducationputLydiatowardthefirestepbystep.Shehopedherdaughtertoachieveherdreamtobeadoctor,sothatshedidnotrealizethattheireducationwasnotonlyharmfultothegrowthofLydia,butalsohadaseriousimpactonthedevelopmentofherphysicalandmentalhealth.SoLydiafinallywenttotheroadofnoreturncausedbyMarilyn’swrongeducationalideaandblindexpectation.SheevenmadeLydiabecomeacarvinginherhandandlostinherselfishlove.3.1.2TheEducationofChineseAmericanFatherTheeducationofparentstochildreninafamilyplaysadecisiveroleinthegrowthofchildren.FamousAmericaneducatorJohnsonTamanthinksthat“thesuccessfulfamilymakesasuccessfulchild,andafailedfamilymakesafailedchild.”(Li1).IfMarilynistheLydiatragedy“Mastermind”，Jamesisthe“accomplice”.Lydia’sfatherJamesLeewasaChineseAmerican;hisparentscametotheUnitedStateswithapseudonym,andtheoriginofhisparentsandhisidentitywasaninextricableknot.Becauseofhisspecialinthecrowd,hewashighpaidattention.Hetriedtointegrateintothecrowddesperatelyinordertoavoidbecomingatopic.HefinallyfeltthattheUnitedStatesopenedthearmstohimuntilhemetMarilyn,buthestillcouldnotgetridofthelonelyheart.JamesacceptedtheWesterneducation,butalsoacceptedtheChineseEducation,James’sviewofeducationwasaffectedbytheconfusionoftwoformsofeducation,thiseducationalexperienceandlivingenvironmentalsomadehimfeeldifferentatalltime.Jameswasconcernedabouttheeyesofothersparticularly,sohehopedthathischildrencouldbeeducatedtofullyintegrateintothecrowd.Butthetruthwasthatthekidswereallmixed-bloodandsodifferent,andhedidnotstandintheirwaytothinkaboutit.WhenNesswasderidedbyhiscompanionsintheswimmingpool,asafatherJamesdidnotgiveareasonablecomfortinhindsight,butcomfortedhimselfinhisheartthatNesscanletitgobyhimself.OnLydia’sbirthday,hegaveherabookonhumanrelations.“Ijustthoughtitmightbeusefultoyou,butyouprobablyknowexactlywhattodo.”(Wu173).HethoughtthiswaswhatLydiawantedtohave,butthisactuallywashishint,andhehopedLydiawouldmakealotoffriendsandintegratedintothecircleoffriendsauthentically.Lydia,underpressureofhisfather,hadtotellliesandpretendedtobesociable.Butbehindlies,thereweretoomuchsufferingofLydia,whichJamesdidnotknow.HewouldonlysecretlychuckletohimselfthatLydiawasnotthesamewithhim.JamesreceivedChineseeducationfromhisparents;thiswasdeeplyrootedinhissubconsciousandpenetratedintotheLydia,sohewasmoreinclinedtoteachtheirchildrentointegrateintothecircleofpeople.ThiskindofeducationmadeLydiabecomeanothervictiminthiscomplexeducationenvironment.3.2TheRelationshipamongFamilyMembers“Happyfamiliesareallalike;everyunhappyfamilyisunhappyinitsownway.”（Tolstoy1）JamesandMarilynbuiltfamilytogetherbecauseoftheirdifferencesandfallinglovewitheachother.Inthismixed-racefamily,therelationshipbetweenhusbandandwife,therelationshipbetweenparentsandchildren,therelationshipbetweenbrothersandsisterswerenotsoharmonious.Husbandandwifeinafamilyisthebasisfortheformationoffamilyrelationships;

theloveofhusbandandwifeistheloveoffamily.Inthisfamilyoffive,thewaystheyloveandtheimbalanceofloveleadeverymemberofthefamilytounfortunate.ItwasthistragedythatledLydiatotheendoflife.AsforMarilynandJames,onewantedtobedifferentandtheotherwantedtointegrateintocrowd.Theyweredoomedtobeunabletounderstandeachother'sinnermostthoughts.JamesandMarilynhadmadeapromisetoforgetthepastandstartanewlifetogetherwhentheygotmarried.Forthepast,theyweresimplysummarized,sotheydidnotknoweachother’sinnerthoughtsofthepast.Theirlackofcommunicationledtothedistortionofparent-childrelationship.Communicationwasoneofthemostimportantrelationships,whichnotonlydirectlyinfluencesthefamily’sphysicalandmentaldevelopment,butalsoinfluencesthedifferentlevelsofinterpersonalrelationshipsthechildrenwouldbeformed.Threechildreninsuchanenvironmentalsolackedofcommunication,whetherparentsandchildrenorbrothersandsistershadchosensilence,thiswasabombforeveryoneinthefamily.Nath,theeldestsonofthefamily,wasoftenoverlooked,aslongasLydia’sactionorawordcouldtakeawaytheeyesofhisparents.Nathwasjealousofhissisterbecausehehatedbeingignored;itwasnotuntilheunderstoodhissister’spainthathefeltsympathyforher.Lydiawasthemostcherisheddaughterofherparents;theyhadalwaysbeenproudofher;alltheloveofherparentswaspouredintoherbody;thethreefoldheavylovemadeherbreathdifficult.Theconcernusedtobedividedintothreepartstothreechildren,butnowitallbelongedtoLydia.Hannahwastheyoungestdaughterinthefamily,andhadnosenseofexistence.Thefamily’sattentionneverfellonher;shejustlikeanoutsiderabandonedbythefamily.“Loveistheconditionofbuildingfamily;moderateloveisavirtueofhumanbeings;whenloveisbeyonditsownmeasure,andlovebecomeshate.”(Lu52).LesslovefromhisparentsmadeNathwanttoleavehome,andtheheavylovefromtheparentsnotonlyboundedtheLydia’swordsanddeedsbutalsokilledherego.Hannahcanonlychoosesilence.Seeminglycalmandhappyfamilyoffivehadaspiritualrift;insuchafamilyatmosphere,incomprehensionandmisunderstandingexistedeverywhere.Nath,LydiaandHannahwereallhalf-breedandmembersofthefamilybuttheyhadadifferenttreatment,equalstatushadunequaltreatment,resultinginfundamentalproblemsabouttherelationshipbetweenthebrothersandsisters.NathunderstoodLydia’spressureandthesufferingsofherheartbuthedidnottrytotakehisresponsibility.HedidnothelpLydiasolvetheproblem,andintheendhewaseventiredofgivingsympathyandcomforttoher,buttodohisbesttoescapefromthisterriblefamily.LydiacouldendureuntilnowbecauseofthesupportfromNath.However,Nathcould