1、Slide presentation by Ken du PisanieWritten by Stephen R. Covey,Slide presentation by Ken du PisanieWritten by Stephen R. Covey,Youre Going to be “Off Track” 90% of the Time. So What?,Good families even great families are off track 90% of the time. The key is that they have a sense of destination. T

2、hey know what the “track” looks like. And they keep coming back to it time and time again.,The key is in having a destination, a flight plan, and a compass.,Invest the next few minutes in this presentation, and you will be given the most valuable tools ever to find your destination for your family.,

3、Have the end in mind: A Beautiful Family Culture,HABIT 1,BE PROACTIVE,We do not have to love. We choose to love.,To do carefully and constantly and kindly many little things is not a little thing.,The way you treat any relationship in the family will eventually affect every relationship in the famil

4、y.,HABIT 2,BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND,Create a clear, compelling vision of what you and your family are all about.,A family mission statement is a combined, unified expression from all family members of what your family is all about and the principles you choose to govern your family life.,For the m

5、ost part, families dont have the kind of mission statement so critical to organizational success. Yet the family is the most important, fundamental organization in the world.,Through a family mission statement you can let your children know that you are totally committed to them, and that you have b

6、een from the very moment of their birth or adoption.,HABIT 3,PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST,Making Family a Priority in a Turbulent World,“Okay, now, I know what youre going to hear from people is “We dont have the time. But if you dont have the time for one night or at least one hour during the week where

7、everybody can come together as a family, then the family is not the priority.” Oprah Winfrey ,Things which matter the most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.,The place to start is not with the assumption that work is non-negotiable; its with the assumption that family is non-ne

8、gotiable. That one shift of mind-set opens the door to all kinds of creative possibilities.,The role of parents is a unique one, a sacred stewardship in life. Is there really anything that would outweigh the importance of fulfilling that stewardship well?,HABIT 4,THINK “WINWIN”,Moving from “Me” to “

9、We”,The question is this: “Would you be willing to search for a solution that is better than what either of us is now proposing?”,The commitment is this: “Let me listen to you first” or “Help me understand.”,The principle is this: What is important to another person must be as important to you as th

10、e other person is to you.,Parenting is not about being popular and giving in to every childs whim and desire. Its about making decisions that truly are win-win however they may appear to the child at the time.,HABIT 5,SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTANDTHEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD,Solving family problems through emph

11、atic communication,Theres no way to have rich, rewarding family relationships without real understanding,Most mistakes with family members are not the result of bad intent. Its just that we really dont understand. We dont see clearly into one anothers hearts.,When you understand,You dont judge.,Each

12、 person needs to be loved in his or her own special way. They key to making deposits, therefore, is to understand and to speak that persons language of love,The technique of emphatic listening is just the tip of the iceberg. The great mass of the iceberg is a deep and sincere desire to truly underst

13、and.,HABIT 6,SYNERGIZE,Building family unity through celebrating differences,You must be able to say sincerely, “The fact that we see things differently is a strength not a weakness in our relationship.,Once you realize that each problem is asking for a response instead of just triggering a reaction

14、, you start to learn. You become a learning family.,HABIT 7,SHARPEN THE SAW,Renewing the family spirit through traditions,Every family must take time to renew itself in the four key areas of life: physical, social, mental, and spiritual.,If you organize your family life to spend ten or fifteen minut

15、es a morning reading something that connects you to timeless principles, you will make better choices during the day in the family, on the job, in every dimension of life.,Sharpening the saw is the highest leverage activity in life because it affects everything else so powerfully,From SurvivalTo stabilityTo SuccessTo Significance,I dont know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: The only ones among you who will really