1、1.Human relationships would become difficult without forgiveness. Its a necessity for building harmonious relationships and achieving our own well-being. Very often we may think that weve been hurt too deeply to forgive. But ironically, Its those of us whove been most hurt that really need to forgiv

2、e. For the truth is that unless we can forgive, we can never recover. For some people forgiveness seems impossible because they have no idea how to go about it. The first and most important thing you need to remember is that the act of forgiveness is not going to be easy. In fact, it will probably b

3、e the hardest thing most of us ever have to do. It seems totally unfair that we should have to forgive when were the ones who have been hurt. And thats the central and most important part of forgiveness. Thats why, sometimes, the initial act of forgiveness may seem relatively easy, but dealing with

4、the emotions can be harder. True forgiveness is not a one-off act, its a constant emotional confrontation. So if you think youre right and cant find it in yourself to forgive, ask yourself this question: would you rather be right or happy.2.Many of us have read interesting and exciting stories in wh

5、ich the main character has only a limited time to live. Such stories set us thinking, wondering what we should do under similar circumstances. Sometimes I have thought it would be an excellent rule to live each day as if we should die tomorrow. Such an attitude would emphasize sharply the value of l

6、ife. We should live each day with a gentleness, a vigor, and a keenness of appreciation which are often lost when time stretches before us in the constant panorama of more days to come. Most of us take life for granted. We seldom think of it. We go about our petty tasks, hardly aware of our listless

7、 attitude towards life. The same listlessness characterizes the use of our faculties and senses. Only the deaf appreciate hearing, only the blind realize the blessings that lie in sight. But those who have never suffered loss of sight or hearing damage seldom make the fullest use of these blessed fa

8、culties. I have often thought it would be a blessing if each human being were stricken blind and deaf for a few days at some time during his early adult life. Darkness would make him more appreciative of sight; silence would teach him the joys of sound.3.Theres a difference between “being a writer”

9、and writings. As a matter of fact, many who wish to be writers are longing for wealth and fame, not the long hours alone at the type-writer. They are not aware of the fact that writing is a lonely, private and poor-paying affair. I remember when I became a freelance writer, I had no prospects at all

10、. What I did have was a friend and a small storage room in an apartment building. It didnt even matter that it was cold and no bathroom. Immediately I bought a used manual typewriter and plunged myself into writing. After a year or so, however, I still hadnt received a break and began to doubt mysel

11、f. Then one day I was offered a job earning 6000 a year. As the dollars were dancing in my head, something cleared my senses. From deep inside a bull-headed resolution welled up. I heard myself saying, “Im going to stick it out and write.” I realized that you had to make sacrifices and live creative

12、ly to keep working at your dreams. Then, in 1970, 17 years after I left the Coast Guard, Roots was published. The shadows had turned into dazzling limelight.4.Optimism and pessimism are powerful forces, and each of us must choose which we want, so as to shape our outlook and our expectations. From w

13、hich perspective do we want to view life? Will we look up in hope or down in despair? An optimistic attitude is not a luxury; its a necessity. The way you look at life will determine how you feel, perform, and how well you will get along with others. Conversely, negative thoughts, attitudes, and exp

14、ectations feed on themselves; they become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Pessimism creates a sad and hopeless place where no one wants to live. When the world is seen as a hopeful, positive place, people are more likely to achieve. Optimism doesnt need to be nave. You can be an optimist and still recog

15、nize that problems exist and that some of them are not dealt with easily. Yet optimism makes a difference in the attitude of the problem solver! Optimism draws our attention away from negativism and channels it into positive, constructive thinking. When youre an optimist, youre more concerned with p

16、roblem-solving than with useless fault-finding. To tackle a big problem, one needs both optimism and persistence.5.What is character? Character is composed of those principles and values that give our life direction, meaning and depth. These constitute our inner sense of whats right and wrong based

17、not on laws or rules of conduct but on who we are. They include such traits as integrity, honesty, courage, fairness and generosity which are formed in the long process of life. So wrong is simply in doing wrong, not in getting caught. Yet some people wonder if our inner values matter anymore. After

18、 all, havent many people succeeded in every visible way, despite their moral weakness? This question demonstrates a dilemma of our modern life. Many have come to believe that the only things we need for success are talent, energy and personality. Success has become more a function of charm, skills a

19、nd techniques that lubricate the process of human interaction. Instead of making efforts to deal with difficult issues of right and wrong, we turned to making things go smoothly. But many noted figures have taught us that who we are is more Important than who we appear to be and we can only experien

20、ce true success and happiness by making character the guideline of our lives. While skill is certainly needed for success, it can never guarantee happiness and fulfillment.6.Creative people have a great deal of physical energy, but they are also often quiet and at rest. They can work long hours with

21、 great concentration while remaining fresh and enthusiastic all the time. When necessary, they can focus it like a laser beam; when not, creative types immediately recharge their batteries. Creative people seem able to use well two opposite ways of thinking: the convergent and the divergent. Converg

22、ent thinking involves solving well-defined, rational problems that have one correct answer. Divergent thinking involves the ability to generate a great quantity of ideas, or the ability to switch from one perspective to another. In current psychological research, extroversion and introversion are co

23、nsidered to be the most stable personality traits that distinguish people from each other. Creative individuals seem to exhibit both traits at the same time. Most creative people are very passionate about their work, yet they can be extremely objective about it as well. Without the passion, we soon

24、lose interest in a difficult task. Yet without being objective about it, our work may suffer and lack credibility. Perhaps the most important quality, the one that is most consistently present in all creative individuals, is the ability to enjoy the process of creation for its own sake.7.In many job

25、 interviews, a common question is whether the interviewee is a “team player”. But what does being a team player really mean? On the most basic level, a team player is someone who can work within a group of people. Therefore it is an essential requirement of any employment that any potential employee

26、 is a team player. On a deeper level, a team player is someone who can play a role in the team, to achieve and support the goals set and agreed upon by the team. Every member of the team should have specific roles and responsibilities in view of achieving their common goals. The success of the team

27、relies completely on every member of the team carrying out their roles and responsibilities in line with the direction of the leader. Being a team player does not mean that you do not have any ideas of your own. It does not mean you should always agree with the rest of the team. Dont be afraid to of

28、fer new ideas even seemingly crazy ones. Everyone in the team should feel free to come up with new ideas and not worry about them being dismissed.8.Many claim unhappy and terrible childhood experiences “damage” people in their adult years. But researchers have discovered this may not necessarily be true. They note that intense difficulties, hardships and major obstacles are often major contributors to success. They maintain that difficult childhoods do leave some people wounded and disadvantaged, but for others, a tough childhood actually drives them to outrageous ac