1. SmileThe one-second tip for when youre feeling nervous and unconfident is simply to smile! You dont just smile because you are happy and confident you can smile to make yourself feel better. The act of smiling is so strongly associated with positive feelings that its almost impossible to feel bad while smiling.Smiling is much more then just a facial expression. The simple act of smiling releases feel-good endorphins, improves circulation to the face, makes you feel good about yourself in general and can definitely increase your self confidence. you will also appear more confident to others while youre smiling.2. Make eye contactAs well as smiling, meet the eyes of other people in the room. Give them your smile; youll almost certainly get one back, and being smiled at is a great self-confidence boost. Like smiling, eye contact shows people that youre confident. Staring at your shoes or at the table reinforces your feelings of self-doubt and shyness. This tip is particularly useful for work-related situations make eye contact with interviewers, or with the audience for your presentation:Eye contact helps take the fear away from the speaker by getting the audience closer to him. Stress is mainly a result of being with the unknown and uncontrollable. Eye contact gives the speaker a picture of the reality that is the audience. It also helps in getting the attention of the audience.3. Change your inner voiceMost of us have a critical inner voice that tells us were stupid, not good enough, that were too fat, thin, loud, quiet Being able to change that inner voice is key to feeling self-confident on the inside, which will help you project your confidence to the world. Make your inner voice a supportive friend who knows you fully but also recognizes your talents and gifts, and wants you to make the best of yourself.You still want to be able to hear the message, so dont make it so chilled and laid back that you never take any notice of it. You can even choose 2, 3 or as many voices as you want for different occasions. Your voice should always support you, always be helpful, never aggressive and it never puts you down.4. Forget other peoples standardsWhatever the situation thats causing you a crisis of self-confidence, you can help yourself immeasurably by holding yourself to your own standards alone. Other people have different values from you, and however hard you try, youll never please everyone all of the time. Dont worry that people will think youre too overweight, underweight, too feckless, too boring, too frugal, too frivolous hold yourself to your standards, not some imagined standards belonging to others. And remember that commonly-held values and standards vary from society to society: you dont have to accept them just because the people around you do.Peoples values define what they want personally, but morals define what the society around those people want for them. Certain behaviors are considered to be desirable by a given society, while others are considered to be undesirable. For the most part, however, morals are not written in stone, or proclaimed by God above, but instead reflect local sensibilities. Different societies have different ideas about what is acceptable and not acceptable.5. Make the most of your appearanceEven if youve only got a minute or two, duck into the bathroom to make sure youre looking your best. Brushing your hair, giving your face a good wash, retouching your makeup, straightening your collar, checking youve not got a bit of parsley stuck between your teeth all of these can make the difference between feeling confident in your physical appearance and feeling anxious about an imagined flaw.Perfect your physical appearance: Theres no denying that ones grooming plays a crucial role in building confidence. Although we know whats on the inside is what truly counts, your physical appearance will be the first to create an impression.6. Pray or meditate brieflyIf you believe in a higher power, whether God, or another spiritual force, it can be a real boost to self-confidence to say a silent prayer. (You could also meditate instead of praying.) This helps you to take a step back from your immediate situation, to see the wider picture and to seek help from something or someone greater than yourself. This is a Christian prayer, but you could write something similar that fits your own religious beliefs or spiritual tradition:Dear God, thank you that you love and accept me as I am please help me to do the same and help me to grow to become the person you want me to be so that my God-confidence and self-confidence will increase greatlyall for the glory of your name and not mine. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Amen.7. Reframe If something unexpected happens, its easy to let it knock your fledgling self-confidence. Perhaps you spill your drink on someone, you arrive late for the big meeting because of traffic problems, or someone who you wanted to speak to gives you a cold brush-off. Try to “reframe” the situation; put it in the best possible light: often, events are only negative because of the meaning we attach to them.8. Find the next stepKeep your self-confidence up by taking gradual steps forwards, rather than freezing when faced with what seems like a giant leap. If youre not sure what to do, look for one simple step that you can take to make progress. That might mean making eye contact at a party, introducing yourself to a stranger, breaking the ice in a meeting, or asking a question of your interviewers that shows your knowledge of their industry and company.Start taking action even if you dont have a clear idea of what needs to be done. Start moving towards your goal. Make corrections later.9. Speak slowlyAn easy tip for both seeming and being more self-confidence is to speak slowly. If you gabble, youll end up feeling worse as you know youre being unclear to your audience or to the person youre in a conversation with. Speaking slowly gives you the chance to think about what youre going to say next. If youre giving a talk or presentation, pause at the end of phrases and sentences to help your audience take in what youve said.A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. A person who feels that he isnt worth listening to will speak quickly, because he doesnt want to keep others waiting on something not worthy of listening to.10. Contribute somethingHave you ever sat through an entire class at college or meeting at work without saying a word? Have you had an evening out where friends chatted happily while you sat and stared silently at your drink? Chances are, you werent feeling very self-confident at the time and you probably felt even worse afterwards. Whatever the situation youre in, make an effort to contribute. Even if you dont think you have much to say, your thoughts and perspective are valuable to those around you.By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, youll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.1。微笑一秒鐘提示當(dāng)你感到緊張和猶豫的就是微笑!你不要只是微笑因?yàn)槟憧鞓泛妥孕拍憧梢晕⑿ψ屪约焊杏X更好。微笑是如此強(qiáng)烈的行為與積極的感覺,它是幾乎不可能感覺不好而微笑。微笑是那么多只是一個面部表情。微笑這一簡單的動作能釋放出讓人愉悅的內(nèi)啡肽,改善血液循環(huán),讓你對自己感覺良好,絕對可以增加你的自信。你也會顯得更自信給別人當(dāng)你微笑。2。進(jìn)行眼神交流除了微笑,滿足別人的眼睛在房間里。給他們你的笑容,你幾乎肯定會一個回來,笑著看著是一個偉大的自信提升。喜歡微笑,眼神交流能讓人們知道你是自信。盯著你的鞋子或在桌腳則會讓你的自我懷疑和害羞。本文在工作場合特別有用與面試官進(jìn)行眼神交流,或觀眾對你的演講:保持目光接觸可以恐懼遠(yuǎn)離揚(yáng)聲器,讓觀眾更接近他。壓力是主要的結(jié)果是未知的和無法控制的。眼神給演講者一幅現(xiàn)實(shí)的觀眾。它還有助于得到觀眾的關(guān)注。3。改變你的內(nèi)心的聲音我們大多數(shù)人有一個關(guān)鍵的內(nèi)心的聲音,告訴我們我們愚蠢,不夠好,我們太胖,瘦,嘈雜、安靜能夠改變內(nèi)心的聲音感覺自信是關(guān)鍵,這將幫助你項目的信心。讓你的內(nèi)心的聲音一個支持性的朋友知道你完全也承認(rèn)你的天賦,并希望你做最好的自己。你仍然希望能夠聽到消息,所以不要把它冷凍和悠閑,你永遠(yuǎn)不會注意到它。你甚至可以選擇2、3或你想要盡可能多的聲音不同的場合。你的聲音應(yīng)該永遠(yuǎn)支持你,總是有益的,從未咄咄逼人,它永遠(yuǎn)不會讓你失望的。4。忘記別人的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)什么情況讓你自信的危機(jī),你可以幫助你自己不可估量著自己獨(dú)自自己的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)。從你其他的人有不同的價值觀,不管你怎么努力,你永遠(yuǎn)不會請每個人所有的時間。別擔(dān)心,人們會認(rèn)為你太胖了,體重過輕,太軟弱,太無聊,太節(jié)儉,太輕浮持有自己你的標(biāo)準(zhǔn),而不是一些想象的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)屬于別人。并且記住,社會普遍認(rèn)同的價值觀和標(biāo)準(zhǔn)不同:你不必接受他們僅僅因?yàn)槟阒車娜俗龅?。人們的價值觀定義了他們自己想要什么,但是道德定義為他們周圍的社會那些人想要什么。某些行為被認(rèn)為是理想的一個給定的社會,而另一些則被認(rèn)為是不可取的。在大多數(shù)情況下,然而,道德不是刻在石頭上,或宣稱上帝之上,而是當(dāng)?shù)孛袂榈姆从?。不同的社會有不同的想法關(guān)于什么是可接受和不可接受的。5。充分利用你的外表即使你只有一兩分鐘,要沖進(jìn)盥洗室里進(jìn)行梳妝,以確保你正在尋找最好的。刷你的頭發(fā),你的臉好洗,修飾你的妝,矯直你的衣領(lǐng),檢查你沒有一點(diǎn)香菜你剔牙所有這些都可以使之間的區(qū)別感到自信在你的外貌和感覺擔(dān)心一個想象的缺陷。完美你的外貌:不可否認(rèn),一個在建立自信的培養(yǎng)起著至關(guān)重要的作用。雖然我們知道里面什么是真正重要的,你的外表將首先創(chuàng)建一個印