Unit2Bodylanguage補(bǔ)充文檔

ThreeWaystoMakeEyeContact

Makingeyecontactcanbetricky,especiallyifyouareshy,ornervous,butgoodeye-contactisimportantforbuildingtrustandengaginganaudience.Evenifyoustruggletoholdeye-contactnow,allittakesisalittlepracticetoconfidentlyholdsomeone’sgaze.

Method1:MakingEye-Contact

Turnyourshouldersandheadtofacetheotherperson’seyes.Openingupyourbodytotheotherpersontellsthemyouarelistening,engaged,andreadytocommunicate.Italsomakeseyecontacteasierandmorenaturaltomaintain.Positionyourselfafewfeetawayfromtheotherperson’sface.

Chooseafocalpointneartheeyes.Mostcommonly,thisisoneoftheotherpeople’seyes,butifyouareuncomfortableyoucanlookbetweentheireyes,justunderorabovetheeye,orattheearlobe.

Makegentleeye-contact.Thinkofhowyouwouldlookatapaintingorgreatview-youarenotfocusingintentlyontheireyebutinsteadlookingatthemgently.Holdyoureyesinthispositionandresistdartingthemaround.Relaxyourgazebybreathingslowlyasyoumakeeye-contactandnoddingoccasionallywhileyoulisten.

Breakeyecontactbrieflyevery5-15seconds.Toomucheye-contactcanbeasoff-puttingasnoneatall.Whileyoudon’tneedtocounttheseconds,youshouldlookawayeveryonceinawhiletokeeptheconversationlightandeasy,butonlyforafewseconds.Somecasualwaystodosoinclude:

Laughing,nodding,andacknowledgingtheotherperson.

Lookingatthesky/weather

Lookingofftothesidebriefly,asifrememberingsomething.

Runningyourhandsthroughyourhair.

Method2:SpeakingtoaCrowd

Lookslightlyabovethecrowd.Youwillneverbeabletomakeeye-contactwitheverypersoninalargegroup,sodon'teventry!Aimyoureyes2-3inchesabovetheheadsofthegroupwithoutfocusingononeparticularperson.

Ifyouareatapodiumorraisedabovethecrowd,aimforthemiddleofthecrowdwithoutfocusingononeparticularperson.

Shiftyourgazeeveryfewsentences.Youdonotwanttolookstraightaheadtheentiretimeyouarespeaking.Everysooften,turnyourheadadifferentdirection.Trytolookateverysectionofthecrowdonceortwicesothatthewholeaudiencefeelsliketheyhaveyourattention.

Alternatively,choose4-5peopletolookat.Thisworksbestifyouknowseveralpeopleinthecrowdandfeelcomfortablespeakingtothem,likeaclassroompresentation.Simplyrotateyourgazefromonetotheotherevery10-15seconds.

Rotateyourgazefrompersontopersoninsmallgroups.Ifyoukeepeye-contactononepersontheentiretimetherestofthegroupmaybecomedisinterestedorfeelleftout.Asyouspeak,lookineachperson'seyesfor5-10secondsbeforemovingslowlytoanotherperson.

Thisworksbestwithgroupsof3-5people.

Makefulleye-contactwhensomeoneelseisspeakinginagroup.Thisletsthespeakerknowthattheyhaveyourattention,arelistening,andcareaboutwhattheyhavetosay.Mostlikely,theywillonlymakeeye-contactwithyourbriefly,keepingthingsfromseemingawkward.

Method3:PracticingGoodEye-Contact

Makeaconsciousefforttostartmakingeye-contactslowly.Donottrytoforceyourselftoholdtheeyesofeverypersonyoumeetifyouareuncomfortable.Startslowly,remindingyourselftomakeeye-contactineveryconversation.

Itiseasiertopracticewhilelisteningtosomeoneinsteadofwhileyouaretalking.

Make“whole-facecontact”tomakeyoureye’sfeelmorenatural.Smileandnodalongtotheconversation,rotatingyourgazethoughbotheyes,theperson’snose,andmouth.Whentalking,don’tfeellikeyouhavetomakeeye-contacttheentiretime--changeyourexpressionorlookawaytokeeptheotherperson’sinterest.

PracticewithaTV,web-camera,ormirror.Ifyoustrugglewithrealpeople,youcanpracticewithascreenormirror.Trytomakeeye-contactwitheverycharacteryoucanonTVorvideoblogs.Newschannels,wheretheanchorlooksrightatthecamera,areagreatwaytopracticecomfortablyinyourhome.

Knowwhengoodeye-contactisessential.Makingeye-contactisasignoftrust,reliability,andopenness,andhelpsinavarietyofsocialsettings.However,therearesomesettingswhenitisvitalforsuccess:

JobInterviews:Goodeye-contacttellsabossthattheycantrustyou.Besuretolookthemineyeswhileyoutalk,asitassuresthemthatyouknowwhatyou’retalkingabout.

Dates:Eye-contactcanhelpyoumakeanintimateconnection,butitcanbedifficulttolookawayinaone-o