1、今天，我們正在發(fā)起一場(chǎng)名為“他為她”的運(yùn)動(dòng)。我站到大家面前，是因?yàn)槲倚枰銈兊膸椭?。我們希望終結(jié)性別不平等為此，我們需要所有人都參與其中。這是聯(lián)合國(guó)第一個(gè)此類運(yùn)動(dòng)：我們希望通過(guò)努力，激勵(lì)盡可能多的男人，以及男孩子們成為性別平等的倡導(dǎo)者。而且，我們不只是要來(lái)談?wù)撨@個(gè)話題，更是要確保性別平等能成為事實(shí)。六個(gè)月前，我被任命為聯(lián)合國(guó)婦女親善大使。隨著我談?wù)撆灾髁x的次數(shù)增加，我越發(fā)意識(shí)到，“爭(zhēng)取女性權(quán)益”已經(jīng)時(shí)常被當(dāng)作是“厭惡男性”的代名詞。如果說(shuō)，有什么是我確切知道的話，那就是，這樣的誤解必須停止。必須鄭重聲明，女性主義的定義是：“相信男性和女性應(yīng)該被賦予平等的權(quán)利和機(jī)會(huì)。它是關(guān)于兩性在政治、經(jīng)濟(jì)和

2、社會(huì)上享有平等地位的理論。”我是這樣開始質(zhì)疑那些基于性別的假設(shè)的。8歲時(shí)，我感到困惑：為什么我想在表演給家長(zhǎng)們看的劇目里擔(dān)任導(dǎo)演會(huì)被說(shuō)成“專橫”，而男孩子們卻不會(huì)；14歲時(shí)，我開始被媒體報(bào)道的某些元素性別化；15歲時(shí)，我的女性朋友們開始退出各自的運(yùn)動(dòng)隊(duì)，因?yàn)樗齻儾幌Ｍ@得“肌肉發(fā)達(dá)”；18歲時(shí)，我的男性朋友們無(wú)法表達(dá)他們的感受。我認(rèn)定自己是一名女性主義者，而且我認(rèn)為這個(gè)身份不難理解。但我最近的調(diào)查告訴我，女性主義已經(jīng)成為了一個(gè)不受歡迎的詞。顯然，我已經(jīng)被列入了那些在世人眼中態(tài)度過(guò)于強(qiáng)勢(shì)、過(guò)于激進(jìn)、拒人千里、厭惡男性、毫無(wú)魅力的女性隊(duì)伍中。為什么這個(gè)詞如此令人不快？我來(lái)自英國(guó)，身為女性，我認(rèn)為我

3、有資格和我的男性同行們獲得一樣的報(bào)酬。我認(rèn)為我有資格為自己的身體做決定。我認(rèn)為女性有資格代表我參與政治以及我的國(guó)家的決策制定。我認(rèn)為我有資格在社會(huì)上獲得和男性同等的尊重。但遺憾的是，我可以說(shuō)，世界上沒(méi)有一個(gè)國(guó)家的所有的女性都能指望獲得上述權(quán)利。世界上也沒(méi)有一個(gè)國(guó)家能說(shuō)，他們已經(jīng)實(shí)現(xiàn)了性別平等。這些權(quán)利，我認(rèn)為全人類都該享有的，而我，只是眾多幸運(yùn)兒中的一個(gè)。我的生命純粹是個(gè)特例。因?yàn)槲业母改笡](méi)有因?yàn)槲疑鸀榕畠憾鴾p少對(duì)我的愛，我的學(xué)校沒(méi)有因?yàn)槲沂桥⒍拗莆遥业膶?dǎo)師們沒(méi)有因?yàn)榻K有一日我可能要生孩子而認(rèn)為我會(huì)在事業(yè)上走不遠(yuǎn)。這些影響了我的人，都是性別平等大使，是他們?cè)炀土私裉斓奈?。他們也許并不知道

4、，他們其實(shí)都是潛意識(shí)里的女性主義者。而我們，需要更多像他們這樣的人。所以，如果你依然討厭“女性主義”這個(gè)詞(我想告訴你)這個(gè)詞本身并不重要，重要的是它背負(fù)的理念和抱負(fù)。因?yàn)椴⒉皇撬信远急毁x予了我所擁有的同等權(quán)利。事實(shí)上，從統(tǒng)計(jì)數(shù)據(jù)看，只有很少一部分人。1997年，希拉里克林頓在北京做了一場(chǎng)關(guān)于女性權(quán)益的著名演講。很遺憾，很多她希望改變的事情，今天依然存在。而最令我在意的是，當(dāng)時(shí)在場(chǎng)的聽眾里只有30%是男性。這場(chǎng)(關(guān)于性別平等)的對(duì)話，如果只邀請(qǐng)了或者只歡迎占世界一半人口的女性來(lái)參與，試問(wèn)我們?nèi)绾文茏龀鲇绊懭澜绲母淖?？男人們我希望借此機(jī)會(huì)向你們發(fā)出正式的邀請(qǐng)。因?yàn)?，性別平等也是你們應(yīng)該爭(zhēng)取

5、的權(quán)益。因?yàn)?，時(shí)至今日，我已經(jīng)看到，我的父親作為家長(zhǎng)所發(fā)揮的作用被社會(huì)所低估。雖然作為孩子，我所需要他的陪伴和我需要母親的一樣多。我看到過(guò)年輕的男性，在遭受精神疾病折磨時(shí)不去尋求幫助，就因?yàn)楹ε逻@會(huì)讓自己顯得不夠有“男子漢氣概”事實(shí)上，在英國(guó)，自殺是20至49歲男性的第一死因，遠(yuǎn)超交通事故、癌癥和冠心病造成的死亡人數(shù)。我看到過(guò)，男人們因?yàn)閷?duì)男性成功標(biāo)準(zhǔn)的曲解而變得脆弱和缺乏安全感。所以，男人們也沒(méi)有享受到性別平等。我們并不常談及男性被一些基于性別的成見所束縛，但是，我可以看出，這個(gè)情況確實(shí)存在。而當(dāng)他們掙脫束縛時(shí)，女性的境遇也會(huì)自然發(fā)生變化。如果男人無(wú)需再通過(guò)爭(zhēng)強(qiáng)好勝來(lái)獲得認(rèn)可，女人就不會(huì)再感

6、到被迫逆來(lái)順受!如果男人無(wú)需再掌控一切，女人就不會(huì)再被迫接受掌控!男人和女人都應(yīng)該能自由地表達(dá)脆弱；男人和女人都應(yīng)該能自由地展現(xiàn)堅(jiān)強(qiáng)是時(shí)候?qū)ⅰ靶詣e”視為一道流動(dòng)的光譜，而不是兩個(gè)對(duì)立的極端來(lái)看待了!如果我們不再通過(guò)我們的不同點(diǎn)來(lái)定義對(duì)方，而是從現(xiàn)在起(拋開性別)直面自身我們都會(huì)更加自由。這就是“他為她”運(yùn)動(dòng)所倡導(dǎo)的。“他為她”所倡導(dǎo)的，就是自由。我希望男性可以挑起這個(gè)擔(dān)子。這樣，他們的女兒、姐妹和母親都能擁抱沒(méi)有性別歧視的自由；同時(shí)，他們的兒子也能顯露脆弱和感性的一面因?yàn)?，只有通過(guò)重新取回這些曾經(jīng)被他們擯棄的特質(zhì)，他們才能成為更真實(shí)和更完整的自己。你可能會(huì)想，這個(gè)從哈利波特里走出來(lái)的姑娘是誰(shuí)，

7、還有，她在聯(lián)合國(guó)的講臺(tái)上做什么？這是一個(gè)好問(wèn)題。相信我，我也一直字問(wèn)自己相同的問(wèn)題。我不知道我是否夠格站在這里。我所知道的是，我關(guān)心這個(gè)問(wèn)題。我希望它能夠得到更好的解決。在看到我所看到的那些，并且當(dāng)這個(gè)機(jī)會(huì)出現(xiàn)時(shí)，我感到自己有責(zé)任說(shuō)些什么。英國(guó)政治家埃德蒙伯克說(shuō)過(guò)：“惡勢(shì)力要想取勝很容易，只要足夠多的善良的男人和女人們什么都不做就可以了。”當(dāng)我為這次演講感到緊張和疑慮時(shí)，我堅(jiān)定地告訴自己若不是我，那該是誰(shuí)；若非現(xiàn)在，更待何時(shí)？如果當(dāng)機(jī)會(huì)降臨你面前時(shí)，你也有類似的疑慮，希望這些話能對(duì)你有所幫助。因?yàn)楝F(xiàn)實(shí)是，如果我們什么都不做，那么女性實(shí)現(xiàn)與男性同工同酬需要花上75年，而那時(shí)，我已年近百歲；有15

8、50萬(wàn)少女會(huì)在未來(lái)的16年間被迫童婚；而照目前現(xiàn)在的發(fā)展速度，到2086年才有可能讓所有非洲農(nóng)村女孩都能接受中等教育。如果你相信平等，你可能是我前面提到的那些潛意識(shí)里的性別平等大使。為此，我要給你一個(gè)掌聲。我們?nèi)栽跒橐粋€(gè)團(tuán)結(jié)的社會(huì)而努力著。不過(guò)，好消息是，我們已經(jīng)有了一場(chǎng)能團(tuán)結(jié)兩性的運(yùn)動(dòng)。這場(chǎng)運(yùn)動(dòng)叫做“他為她”。我邀請(qǐng)你站出來(lái)，展示自己，暢所欲言，成為一個(gè)為女性權(quán)益奮斗的男性。并且問(wèn)問(wèn)自己：若不是我，那該是誰(shuí)；若非現(xiàn)在，更待何時(shí)！謝謝大家。Today we are launching a campaign HeForShe. I am reaching out to you because w

9、e need your help. We must try to mobilize as many men and boys as possible to be advocates for change. We dont just want to talk about it. We want to try and make sure its tangible.I was appointed as Goodwill Ambassador for UN Women 6 months ago.The more I spoke about feminism, the more I realized t

10、hat fighting for womens rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating. If there is one thing I know for certain is that this has to stop. For the record, feminism by definition is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of political, econom

11、ic and social equality of the sexes.When I was 8, I was called bossy because I wanted to direct a play we would put on for our parents. When at 14, I started to be sexualized by certain elements of the media. At 15, my girlfriends started dropping out of sports teams because they didnt want to appea

12、r masculine. At 18, my male friends were unable to express their feelings.I decided that I was a feminist. This seemed uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word. Women are choosing not to identify as feminists. Apparently, womens expression i

13、s seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating, and anti-men, unattractive even.Why has the word become such an uncomfortable one? I think it is right I am paid the same as my male counterparts. I think it is right that I should be able to make decisions about my own body. I think it is right that

14、women be involved on my behalf in the policies and decisions that will affect my life. I think it is right that socially, I am afforded the same respect as men.But sadly, I can say that there is no one country in the world where all women can expect to see these rights. No country in the world can y

15、et say that they achieved gender equality. These rights are considered to be human rights but I am one of the lucky ones.My life is a sheer privilege because my parents didnt love me less because I was born a daughter. My school did not limit me because I was a girl. My mentors didn*t assume that I

16、would go less far because I might give birth to a child one day. These influences are the gender equality ambassadors that made me who I am today. They may not know it but they are the inadvertent feminists needed in the world today. We need more of those.If you still hate the word, it is not the wo

17、rd that is important. It is the idea and the ambition behind it because not all women have received the same rights I have. In fact, statistically, very few have.In 1997, Hillary Clinton made a famous speech in Beijing about womens rights. Sadly, many of the things that she wanted to change are stil

18、l true today. What struck me the most was that less than 30% of the audience were male. How can we effect change in the world when only half of it is invited or being welcomed to participate in the conversation?Men, I would like to give this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equal

19、ity is your issue, too. Because to date, Ive seen my fathers role as a parent being valued less by society. Ive seen young men suffering from mental illness, unable to ask for help for fear it would make them less of a man. In fact, in the UK, suicide is the biggest killer of men between 20 to 49, e

20、clipsing road accidents, cancer and heart disease. Ive seen men fragile and insecure by what constitutes male success. Men dont have the benefits of equality, either.We dont often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that they are. When they are free, things will chang

21、e for women as a natural consequence. If men dont have to be aggressive in order to be accepted, women wont feel compelled to be submissive. If men dont have to control, women wont have to be controlled.Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be st

22、rong. It is time that we all see gender as a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals. We should stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by who we are. We can all be freer and this is what HeForShe is about. Its about freedom. I want men to take up this mantle

23、 so that their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so that their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human too, reclaim parts of themselves they abandoned and in doing so, be a more true and complete version of themselves.You might think: who is this Harry Potter

24、 girl? What is she doing at the UN? Ive been asking myself the same thing. All I know is that I care about this problem and I want to make it better. And having seen what Ive seen and given the chance, I feel it is my responsibility to say something. Statesman Edmund Burke said all that is need for the forces of evil to triumph is for good men and women to do nothing.In my nervousness for this speech and in my moments of do