1、這十件事樂觀之人不會相信 10ThingsHappyPeopleDontBelieve Soyouwanttobehappy?Well,theresonlyonethingstandinginyourway.You. Happinessisachoicethatonlyhappypeoplemake.Herearethe10delusionshappypeopledontsubscribeto. 你想要活得快樂？那好,唯一能做主的,就是你.也唯有樂觀之人才會做出快樂的抉擇.下 面10個錯想,樂觀人士絕不持有. 1. Lifeisfair. Happinessisntaboutalwaysget

2、tingwhatyouwant.Happypeopleunderstand thatsometimeslifedoesntgotheirway;lifeisntfair.Whattheydoknow,is thatyoucanonlydoyourbest,forgiveyourselfforwhatdoesntwork,andletgo whenyouneedto. 人生是公平的. 快樂并非一定來自得償所愿.樂觀的人懂得有時人生不會一帆風(fēng)順；它并不公平.他們深知, 唯有全力以赴,且對失敗釋然于心,必要之時學(xué)會放手,才會幸福. 2. Sufferingisbad.Sufferingisanine

3、vitableconditionofhumanity.Youcannotsurvivethisworldwithoutatleastalittlesuffering.Happypeopleknowadeeperhappinesscomesthroughsurvivingadeeppain.Welearnwhatweretrulymadeofwhenfaced withsuchhurt. 2. 苦難即不幸. 苦難是人類不可防止的經(jīng)歷.假設(shè)經(jīng)不得一點,便難存于世.樂觀的人懂得何為歷艱彌幸.當(dāng) 遭遇那些創(chuàng)傷之時,我們就會看到最真的自己. 3. Imincontrolofthings. Asharda

4、syouwork,andasmuchasyoutrytoplanitallout,yourejustnotin control.Youcannotcontroltheactionsorthoughtsofothers.Inordertoreachhappiness,happypeopleacceptthisinevitabletruthandlearntobeproactiveratherthanreactivetolifessurprisesandmishaps. 我是主宰. 無論你多么努力,不管你怎樣煞費苦心,你都不會成為主宰.你都限制不了別人的行為或是思想.為了活得快樂,樂觀之人會接受這

5、個既定的事實,并學(xué)著預(yù)見人生悲喜,而非消極對 待. 4. Peopleareobligatedtolovemeaspecificway. Ifyourhappinessisdependentonhowotherpeoplefeelaboutyou,youwillneverbehappy.Youcantpleaseeveryoneandyoucertainlycantforceanyone toloveyouinaspecificway.Happypeopleacceptthewaytheirlovedonesfeel,andworkatshowingtheiraffectionandaskin

6、gforwhattheyneedratherthanexpectingpeopletolovethemthewaytheywanttobeloved. 別人就應(yīng)該好好愛我 如果你把快樂建立在別人對你的情感之上,你將永遠(yuǎn)不得幸福.你不能贏得所有人的歡心,當(dāng)然也無法強迫任何人來如何愛你.樂觀的人在乎所愛之人的感受,他們努力表達(dá)心中的愛 和需求,而非期待別人用他們渴望的方式來愛自己. 5. Everyonehatesme. Thisisatoxicbeliefandadelusion,yetsadlyagreatproportionofunhappypeoplefallpreytothis,whic

7、hislargelywhytheyareunhappy.Happypeoplefacetheworldwithahealthydoseofcuriosityandnonchalance.Theyareinterestedinothers,yetnotsodependentonbeinglovedinaspecificway.Makingfriendstakestime,thatsall. 人人都討厭我 這簡直就是邪念和妄想,但不幸有相當(dāng)多的悲觀人士落入圈套,這也是他們不快樂的罪魁禍 首.在樂觀人士的世界里,有適當(dāng)?shù)暮闷?也有適當(dāng)?shù)哪魂P(guān)心.他們對別人懷有興趣,但又不太倚戀特定方式的愛.交友需要

8、時間,就這樣. 6. Icant. Ifyoubelieveyouareincapableandletthatbeliefkeepyoufromhappiness,thenultimatelyyougivetruthtoaself-imposedfallacy.Theonlywaytoimproveandsucceedatanythingistotryandtryagain.Considerthis:whoisyouridol?Doyouthinkheorsheissoaccomplishedthroughalifevoidoffailure?No!Theysimplydonotletthei

9、rdoubtskeepthemfromhappiness. 我不行 如果你認(rèn)為自己欠缺水平并讓這個想法阻礙你的快樂,那么你終究會陷入妄自菲薄當(dāng)中.萬 事取得進(jìn)步和成功的唯一方法就是反復(fù)嘗試.試想一下：你的偶像是誰？你認(rèn)為他/她在整 個人生中就毫無失敗的遺憾么？不！他們只是沒讓自我疑心阻礙了幸福而已. 7. Ihavesomethingtoprove. Unhappypeopleseekhappinessthroughapproval.Unfortunately,thatapprovalisimpossibletoachievebecauseitiscausedbyainnerlack,whic

10、hkeepsthemconstantlystriving.Happinesscanonlybeachievedthroughself-acceptance.Yoursistheonlyapprovalyouneed. 我要證實自己. 悲觀人士從贊揚中尋求快樂.不幸的是,由于內(nèi)心空虛,那些贊揚并不能帶來快樂,如此便 造成了奮斗不止的局面.而快樂單從自我接納中就可獲得.你真正需要的贊揚出于自身. 8. Itdoesntmatter. Itdoesntmatterisjustanexcuse.Itswhatunhappypeopletellthemselves toavoidconfrontatio

11、nwhentheyvebeenmistreated,ortoendurealackof couragewhentheydontfollowtheirdreams.Happinessmatters.Respectmatters.Dontdismissyourneedstoavoidresponsibilityofyourownhappiness. 8.沒關(guān)系 沒關(guān)系僅是一個借口.是悲觀之人在遭遇不平時防止?fàn)巿?zhí)的自我勸說,或在放棄夢想時,掩飾勇氣缺失的幌子.快樂有關(guān)系.尊重也有關(guān)系.不要因逃避擔(dān)當(dāng)尋求快樂的責(zé)任而背棄 你的需求. 9. Idbehappier,ifonlyIwerefillinth

12、eblank. Youknowyourroutine.Idbehappier,ifonlyIwereskinnier,prettier,smarter, theCEO.Happypeopleknowthesecrettohappinessisacceptingthemselves-flawsandall.Itsokaytoworkonimprovingyourself-werealways inastateoflearning-butitsnotokaytoberateyourselfforyourflaws.Focusonyourstrengths. 如果我是.我會更加快樂 我知道你的想法.

13、如果我更苗條點,漂亮點,聰明點,或成為總裁,我會更加快樂.快樂的人知道通往幸福的秘訣是接納自我-接納缺點及一切.努力提升自己當(dāng)然可以-我們總是處于學(xué)習(xí)的狀態(tài)中-但因缺點而苛責(zé)自己就使不得了.要發(fā)現(xiàn)你的力量. 10. Imtooold. Youarenevertooold.Yes,youmaylooksilly.And,yes,itmaybeharderthanyouexpect,butitsnevertoolat techoosehappiness.Happypeoplekeep choosinghappinesseveryday,whethertheyfeltitearlyonordiscoveredthesecretlaterinlife,itstheirchoice.Lifeisunpredictable.Theonlysur